having just spend 6 months (!!!!) living with my parents I have the following advice: if someone asks you to do something for them and you don& #39;t understand why, maybe you don& #39;t need to understand. Maybe you just need to show them you accept and care about their feelings.

99% of the arguments/fights/lasting sites of harm I& #39;ve shared with my mom in my life have come back to me TELLING HER I don& #39;t like doing the thing she feels I have to do, or that what she& #39;s doing feels bad, and her plowing ahead if she can& #39;t personally empathize with that

Empathy is amazing thing but often you will not be able to meaningfully figure out where someone is coming from, and that& #39;s okay too. When someone tells you something is important to them, what matter is not the thing itself but that it is important to the person you care about