YES GOOD. I haven’t strictly ruled out the idea that I might do a bit of gendered content at some point, but the vast vast majority isn’t and won’t be, and never when I can manage without. It’s better for me and my readers! https://twitter.com/thesecretsubjct/status/1310705738155655168

Also, most of the topics where I do see gender explicitly used are... pretty sexist, tbh. (sometimes intentionally - misogyny kink is a thing - but it’s not my thing)
Sissification, much of bimboification, denial - that last one both ways!

...Yeah, this is gonna be a thread. 2/

I periodically look over the people who follow me, when I’m bored or horny or just curious, and I see wide variety of stuff. But when I see denial/chastity stuff, it’s almost exclusively gendered, and it frustrates me to no end. Sometimes it’s “men are lesser and deserve...” 3/

“to be locked up/denied in service of their Mistress” and the whole tumblr is stereotypical dommes being cruel and messages about how Her pleasure is the Only Important Thing. Other times, it’s a page of talking about how you have three holes and they’re all for Men 4/

and edging keeps you wet and needy and ready to serve. etc etc etc. And don’t get me wrong, there are some really great blogs in that category! ayerslix, prettycockpuppet ( @AutumnReve here), and female-orgasm-denial are three that come to mind. And they may have some posts 5/

that are applicable to any gender. But I practically never see any blog that’s gender neutral (or even goes both ways!) about denial, and it’s so frustrating. The result is a space that’s extremely heteronormative (women denying women/men denying men is incredibly rare), 6/

as well as often transphobic (I’ve seen a few posts eg on female-orgasm-denial talking about denying trans girls, but most blogs not so much) both in regards to assuming body parts and just completely ignoring non-binary folk altogether. Sigh.

I’m not trying to say that if
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...you’re straight and cis you shouldn’t say things like “good girls are dumb and denied for men’s pleasure” or whatever (again, misogyny kink is a thing but not my thing), but I only ever see straight cis people saying anything. Which is, y’know, not great? 8/

I get so tired of seeing “be a good girl for men” or whatever. Can I be be a good girl FOR OTHER GIRLS PLEASE? Denial shouldn’t be about gender - only whether it’s your kink.

Maybe there are inclusive denial blogs out there and I’m just missing them? Please tell me if so. 9/

Anyway. It’s not hard to replace “good girls make more good girls” with “good sluts make more good sluts” and so on.

So, anyone into denial and not cishet? You’re valid. And if you want to blog about it there’s LOTS of room. (And lmk if you do bc I WILL follow you)
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