would it be safe to say that when it comes to relationships, you’re actively trying to unfold the 6th and 8th house with your partner because in a way, it’s invisible to both of you?

context: the asc does not make aspects to the 2nd, 6th, 8th, and 12th house. with derivative houses, your 8th house would be the 2nd house of your partner while your 6th house would be the 12th house of your partner

i think it seems pretty intuitive. i feel like a lot of people complain about how surprisingly dysfunctional their partners can be on a daily or financial basis. like they suddenly find out their partner hoards or they find out their partner is in a whole bunch of debt, etc.

i guess it’s an invisible, yet practical concern to maintain your relationship! the 7th house is long-term commitments. you have to share your daily life and maybe some of your shared posessions when you commit to someone and it does require some transparency that involves risk

i’d say the 5th house is short term relationships. if we’re gonna apply the same logic with what is invisible to our casual partner with derivative houses, it’d be our 4th and 6th house

this one is interesting because the 4th house is actually visible - the ascendant is square to the 4th house. we can starkly see family matters. revealing the past and family dynamic is key if you wanna maintain a fun relationship. also note that the 6th house IS STILL THERE

GEE IT’S ALMOST LIKE ASTROLOGY IS SAYING “YO IF YOU WANT FUNCTIONABLE RELATIONSHIPS OF ANY KIND, YOU PROBABLY WANT YOUR LIFE TO IDEALLY BE PUT TOGETHER IF YOU WANT A SMOOTHER RIDE PREP THAT 6TH HOUSE!!!”

honestly this really refines my thoughts on the 6th house because i only address the 6th house if i’m reading for someone who’s trying to move in with someone in a long term relationship. however, i should probably just include the 6th housd no matter what

the 6th house is the relationship house nobody talks about, but will eventually be forced to talk about. eventually, your routine, habits, your work environment, coworkers, and your health are all factors that really do strongly affect the functionality of your relationship!

damn do you realize how hard relationships are with that context? remember these things you’re uncovering about your partner aren’t immediately apparent to them AND vice versa. a lot of this revealing can sound accusatory because of a lack of self awareness!

for anyone who doesn’t have a healthy relationship with vulnerability, uncovering issues like these is terrifying. imagine trying to fix an issue your partner points out to you + you feel the pressure to fix an issue you don’t quite know where to start + still not feel like shit

relationships are hard and require a lot of patience