An exercise if you’re married or in a long term, committed relationship. Imagine everything you’ve been through, and every time you’ve thought, “I couldn’t have done it without my spouse.” Now imagine doing it anyway, without them.

I cannot claim to understand the complexities of marriage/long term relationships, since I haven’t experienced it. I imagine it is difficult and trying and a lot a times. But I also imagine you believe it’s all worth it.

I don’t mean to sound rude. Your struggles are valid and your relationship is allowed to take up as much space as it needs.

But please. Recognize your single friends. They are doing all the same things you are, but they are doing it alone.

And I don’t really want pity. Just love and understanding. I actually prefer singleness. It’s just... easy to feel forgotten or like a burden. I just don’t want to be an afterthought.