Normalize partners who understand that their significant other forgets important things sometimes. Forgetfulness in relationships isn’t always this malicious “I don’t care about you” trope. There’s so many things that contribute to it and it’s fine.

In all the time wasted on being angry about a forgotten date you could just remind them in advance so they mark it on a calendar, set a reminder, take off work, ect. so you don’t sit there, upset at them, when the day comes.

My wife and I are going on 19 years together and she doesn’t always remember the anniversary of my brother’s death. He died before I knew her. So I have to tell her when it’s coming up. She’ll mark it off in advance so when the day comes there’s no “wait you won’t be at home?”

Plus she JUST had to take care of me because my uncle passed away last Sunday, so yeah, her not immediately connecting the dots on what tomorrow is isn’t some huge “how dare you not remember” moment — ESPECIALLY cuz she took it off in advance cuz we ALREADY discussed it.

Basically this idea of the forgetful partner being some huge relationship strain is kinda terrible. Of course you can point to examples where the forgetfulness stems from a lack of caring, but there’s so many cases where it just happens and it’s easily fixed and... that’s it.

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