this isnt really a guide ?? but here is some tips to dating people who overthink !!

okay first i just wanna say,, overthinking things is NOT a bad thing, it mainly happens because of past truama,, and there is nothing wrong with that, its who you are!!!

1, ALWAYS !!!! and i mean always, consider their feelings and hear them out,, never make them feel invalid or like their emotions are stupid!!! i bet most people who tend to overthink in relationship have been played with, cheated on, been in a 1 sided relationship, ect-

so they can be scared,, and there is nothing wrong with that. NEVER !! invalidate their feelings.

2, if they ask for something, try your best to put effort into that thing, if its a nickname, or note writing, anything, please try, if you put in no effort, to us, it makes it seem like you dont want the relationship, because if you put in no effort, its not gonna go anywhere

3, always reassure them,, if you have a problem with reassuring them frequently, then fuck off because sometimes we need those things to be said to us to help us know that you love us back!! reassuring us and can be very good, ecspecially if its often because -

when you reassure us, it helps us understand your feelings in the relationship!! if you dont reassure them then we will tend to get insecure and scared, so please write a little note or just be like "hey i love you so much you know that right?" its not that hard.

4, COMMUNICATE, okay well first off this is important in any relationship, if you dont communicate, then frankly its not going anywhere, always talk to them about everything, asking if they are okay with a friend, if they are uncomfortable with how you speak to someone-

or if they want to meet anyone, when we meet your friends it helps us take out any bad thoughts we have on that person (most of the time)

5, BE UNDERSTANDING !! please for the love of god dont EVER turn this around on them, understand where they are coming from, turning it around on them can make them even more insecure and it can ruin trust in a relationship!!!

6, give them the same amount of energy they give you, i dunno if that makes sense, but if you dont give the same energy then we can think its starting to get one sided, and can put doubts in our mind!! so please try to give them lots of love !!

7, always be prepared for anything they have to say, you should get used to messages about how they are insecure about something or if they are uncomfy with a person !! we want to share our feelings with you and if you act like its an awful thing like responding with-

"again" or "seriously how many times do i have to tell you" it can make us really nervous about telling you our true feelings and make us EVEN more insecure !!

ahh this is all i can think of right now ): ill probably add more in a little bit !!!!!

quick liddol note : its not your fault!! for being!! an overthinker!! its just who you are,, and its not your fault, most of the time it is caused by past relationship or trauma!!! there is nothing nothing nothing wrong with that !!! never let anyone invalidate how you feel

8, be prepared for alot of apologies, we say sorry,, like SO FUCKING MUCH, this is mainly caused from people getting angry, mad, or upset at how we feel, so always tell them it is okay!! and to never apologize for how they feel !

9, HAVE TRUST !! most of the times, it can seem like we dont trust you ,, but mainly its other people we dont trust !! like for instance i know my boyfriend would turn down anyone who made a move on him !!! but i have a problem WITH the people making a move on him

i dunno if that makes sense, but when people make a move on him, i can get really insecure and it makes me feel like i am being pushed away, especially if they know we are dating and still do that , i hope that makes sense lolz

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10, spell things out?? i dunno if that makes sense,, but isntead of saying "ily" just say i love you, and stuff like that, it loses its meaning when you go "ily" it just doesnt feel the same.

11, BE PATIENT !!! this is pretty self explanatory, just be patient with them, they cant help how they feel and what they have been through !!

12, dont be afraid to tell them how you feel to, if you cannot communicate with each other and tell each other your TRUE feelings its gonna get really complicated !! you have emotions too and their is nothing wrong with expressing them !!!

13, BE HONEST !!! do i even need to explain ....

14, be clear on what you are trying to say !! if you say the wrong thing or word it wrong, we can take it the wrong way since we read into things, so please make sure you think before you speak/text !!!!

15, put yourself in the other persons shoes, this goes for both sides, look at things from thier perspective nd how they think !! itll help you approach the situation better and take into account how they feel !

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