One of The most common errors people make is genuinely believing marriage is a Contradiction to developing feelings for other human beings..People aren’t built for Monogamy... That’s not human nature...it should be the exception not the rule...

Denying this fact is the reason marriages fail as often as they succeed...Society has told you when you get God and the government involved in your personal business you must instantly forego your base desires...

So people involved in that type of Quasi Cinderella nonsense resort to cloak and dagger shenanigans or just die in silence meanwhile they gotta keep up appearances that they got a perfect Union at home...