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Ran across a thread of cishet parents saying they were pretty "unphased" by their children coming out to them, that their kids were annoyed w them for being so unphased, maybe the kids would& #39;ve preferred they be __phobic
This is a thread for those parents.
This is a thread for those parents.
Let& #39;s make one thing clear, I& #39;m glad you& #39;re accepting.
Let& #39;s make another thing clear, you still need to show emotional support instead of non-chalant acceptance.
Let& #39;s make another thing clear, you still need to show emotional support instead of non-chalant acceptance.
When your kid comes out to you, they are coming out to their main provider and (possible) longest human connection. It& #39;s a huge build up of anxiety and stress, for some people it& #39;s not so bad but for a *good amount* of us it& #39;s not fun.
When your kid plans a speech, presentation, post or even just wings it or maybe even accidentally outs themselves, it& #39;s good to be as calm as possible but it& #39;s also good to be sensitive AND communicative.
Let them say everything they need to say, tell them youre happy they told you and that you support them, hug them (if they like hugs), tell them you& #39;d like to learn more about their community, ask them if they wanna have their favorite food/dessert/etc to celebrate.
Get involved, get close, don& #39;t just sit there and say "thats great sweety" or "oh, okay, cool." Because while that MAY be preferrable for some people, a lot of people would like at least a small, positive, affirming conversation to happen.
There are some parents that said they made jokes and that made their children happy, took the tension off. I& #39;ll say make sure this is something ypu already typically do in your family. --
If youre a silly family then i cant tell you not to be yourself but I can tell you to make sure the conversation doesnt shift or distract from it& #39;s original purpose, so your child can feel heard, seen, understood and respected.
I have a non-chalant mom, and her "indifferent" approach is not only a cover up for the homophobia/transphobia she doesnt THINK she has, it& #39;s a way for her to conveniently forget me and my girlfriend are gay and trans.
Dont be that parent!
Dont be that parent!
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an update on my progress with my mom https://twitter.com/pastelpuffss/status/1310281156542238720?s=19">https://twitter.com/pastelpuf...
Whew chile my notifs flooded so Imma mute this now. Keep sharing your experiences, and I& #39;m glad this helped yall or others understand this area that& #39;s pretty over looked!
Also for yall butterbread bitches trying to shame everyone else for a different experience... lemme remind you that im a grown ass adult(read the bio mf) and i am kind/understanding...but I aint nice. 
https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="đł" title="Errötetes Gesicht" aria-label="Emoji: Errötetes Gesicht"> so dont come up in here w no bullshit cause imma light your ass up
for those that dont understand aave or much english in general: Don& #39;t be an asshole or I& #39;m going to be an asshole.
**also yall its muted but im trying to hide tweets from hatefuls, im sorry you have to see some of this bullshit https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="đ" title="Laut schreiendes Gesicht" aria-label="Emoji: Laut schreiendes Gesicht"> im checking back periodically
