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We talk a lot about disabled ppl serving as inspiration porn for the ableds, but I want to also discuss how the ableds feel entitled to "inspire" your disabilities away. Basically every disabled person has had a nondisabled person (or 50) give them a specific sort of "pep talk".
It& #39;s the usual "overcoming" BS but they don& #39;t just doubt your knowledge of your own bodymind and feel entitled to strip you of your autonomy and impose their will, they also think you& #39;ve been waiting your whole life for them to do it -- for them to so thoroughly dehumanize you.
They think they& #39;re your savior. You (obviously?) need saving and it& #39;s your lucky day: they& #39;re here to save you whether you like it or not, so prepare to have your boundaries thoroughly violated in the name of fun and adventure.
It& #39;s a common trope in "literature" and film: the indefatigable abled helper/partner/ward/etc... mows through the morose cripple& #39;s defenses to "inspire" them to "live again". So get ready to rediscover your (apparently lost?) zest for life -- and no you don& #39;t have a choice!
There is no pain, no fatigue, no pacing, no appointment schedules, no flares -- no bodyminds to speak of, in fact -- once the formerly sad and useless disabled vessel for ableist indoctrination is animated by the arrogance of the excruciatingly irrepressible abled character.
Let me be clear: this behaviour is presumptuous in the extreme and it does not matter if the failure to respect a disabled person& #39;s boundaries is "well intentioned"; it is an egregious violation rooted in harmful stereotypes. It is oppressive and indefensible.
Whenever I encounter this shit, I get out as fast as I possibly can because it tells me that the other person does not see me as a person or respect my knowledge and needs; I am a canvas for a fantasy world that will be painted at my expense.
My ex used to do this, and recently a date came at me with that same sort of judgement delivered as a breathless challenge; she wanted to know whether I deliberately "keep my world small".
