Overcoming Fear of Rejection

Short Thread

Rejection feels brutal and there is no other way to admit that.

But there is nothing of worth you will achieve without feeling rejection at first. Whether it be dating, business or whatever.

The best way to get over fear of rejection is by getting rejected so many times that you are numb to it. To a point where it doesn't even register in your mind.

But how do you get the courage to start in the first place?

This is where most get stuck.

To overcome that initial fear of rejection that holds us back and robs us of our dreams with crippling anxiety...

We can employ a very simple change in Perspective.

When we get rejected, we associate it with everything we have.

How we look, who we see in the mirror, our personality etc.

In essence, our whole ego *feels* rejected.

NOT the specific "idea" (a date, a business deal) that was rejected in the moment.

Our ego comes up with these thoughts in our mind that the person rejecting us is constantly laughing at us, making fun of us, thinking that we embarrassed ourselves in front of them and they will forever remember us as the person the rejected.

Which is simply not true.

The problem here is not the rejection itself.

It is the fact that we think we are so important that we project that sense of grandiosity onto others and assume "they think I am that important as well" and that they are constantly thinking about the rejection they just made.

But we are not that Grand in others' eyes and I will prove to you.

If we really turned the tables and looked at it from another perspective and asked "When was the last time *I* thought about someone I rejected?"

The answer should be more that enough for proof.

You'll find that you rejected 100s if not 1000s and you barely remember any one of them, let alone dwell on it.

So in truth, rejection itself in reality is something that weighs 1 gram but our mind, through the lens of the ego's grandiosity, makes it feel like 100kg.

The antidote to handling rejection is actually understanding how absolutely insignificant you are, not in a self deprecating way or from an internal point of view, but from the point of view of the external.

Realize how many people there are, realize how many rejections people make in a day, realize these enormous amounts and then realize you...just one in a sea of others.

When leading into a position where you may be rejected, always remember that you are insignificant from the external.

No one can change that.

However, you're incredibly important from the internal perspective.

Only YOU can change that and there lies TRUE power.

In summary:

You are not as important to others as you are to yourself.

The whole purpose of this perspective shift is to keep your self worth in your own hands and not allow others to control it.

When you do that, rejections hurt a little less, if at all.

So no need to fear.