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okay so I need to talk about something that& #39;s a little personal but needs to be talked about because this is something I& #39;ve discovered about myself very recently. I& #39;ve identified as demisexual and aromantic for years now but it wasn& #39;t until I really started working out
my feelings through my writing less than 2 weeks ago that I started to understand how much I still believed in all the harmful stereotypes that I& #39;ve been exposed to since I started reading fanfics. how much of myself I kept locked away because I thought it was a fault in
my personality rather than admitting to people out loud that I& #39;m demisexual and aromantic. instead, I just put on an act and tried to imitate what was normal and most of the time I was very uncomfortable and very unhappy.
working things out through my writing and the way I finally projected how I really felt on jimin, I suddenly felt so much lighter because I suddenly realized who I am in some way. ask everyone around me and they& #39;ll tell you about the shift in my personality in the past week.
which brings me to why I& #39;m making this thread.
the way aspec people are represented in fics.
the media I& #39;ve been consuming for years have made me hide who I was because I was led to believe that I needed fixing. that who I am is unlovable and I adapted by pretending.
the way aspec people are represented in fics.
the media I& #39;ve been consuming for years have made me hide who I was because I was led to believe that I needed fixing. that who I am is unlovable and I adapted by pretending.
and that& #39;s why I& #39;m so adamant right now on representation. I don& #39;t want anyone else to have to go through feeling like they& #39;re wrong for simply being who they are. I don& #39;t want anyone to have expectations thrust upon them because of how they identify.
I hate to say this but researching textbook definitions of the aspec spectrum is not enough. if you don& #39;t identify as one, I suggest reading people& #39;s stories and learning more about how those text definitions apply to real life
because you could be inadvertently misrepresenting them even though you& #39;ve done your research. being sex positive on the aspec doesn& #39;t mean you turn allo once you& #39;ve found or connected with the right person.
there& #39;s so many more layers to this other than the right person. more often than not, their sexual drive would still not be close to that of an allo person and that& #39;s what those definitions miss.
so please, do your best to research. don& #39;t let the stuff you write hurt others.
so please, do your best to research. don& #39;t let the stuff you write hurt others.
putting this here because it& #39;s so so important to learn: https://twitter.com/jwimimssi/status/1308144011006431233">https://twitter.com/jwimimssi...
also this: https://twitter.com/asexuality/status/1309674538175791104">https://twitter.com/asexualit...
