“All that pain and misery… and loneliness… and it just made it kind.“ Amelia Pond,𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘉𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘵 𝘉𝘦𝘭𝘰𝘸
...I don’t think I’ve ever met a real person whose trauma or pain made them kind. Personally speaking mine certainly didn’t. Mine made me feral. Made me mute. Made me

angry & vicious & survivalistic. It made me fearful of strangers & distrustful of my own family. It left me sensitive to anger & terrified of raised voices & the violence I associated with the sound & energy surrounding it. It left me scarred. Kindness for me came in the form of

the literal blood, sweat, tears, patience, & LOVE my family poured into me for years. It came in the hard work of those around me that wanted better for me. In the process of teaching me that even though bad people exist in the world that doesn’t mean everyone is. That even if

I’ve been hurt by people before it didn’t mean that everyone had intentions to do so. In the process of unlearning & relearning how to be a child again, to be held, to unball my hand from a fist & reach out & expect to be answered with gentleness. I am kind because of the good

work those who loved put into teaching me how to be. I’m kind because I work hard at being so every single day. Because to this day I remember what the opposite feels like. Pain & trauma don’t make people soft & kind. It’s a choice to be more & better than what you survived.

I’m all for having your own opinions but for the love of god don’t ever try and romanticize someone’s trauma or whatever they may have endured or make assumptions based on what very little you may know. If you must give credit for the qualities you like give it where it’s due.

Btw sorry to anyone that’s awake to see this. I’ll probably delete this thread later. It’s not directed at anyone I follow to anyone who might be worried. Just got into this subject with someone & we had some very different perspectives on it & I needed somewhere to vent https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="😞" title="Enttäuschtes Gesicht" aria-label="Emoji: Enttäuschtes Gesicht">