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I always thought my most admirable strength is being able to accept criticism.
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Most of you know that I write fiction or do some design, but I’m going to try my best to keep things general in an attempt to share some sort of lesson in my recent experience.
I’ve always thought I’m a boss in taking criticisms. May it be in presenting on a competition or publishing something. I saw myself as mature enough to always say “thank you” and take their suggestions in consideration.
This week I realized that all this time, the criticisms I received are civil, written with my ego in consideration. The negatives will always have positives mixed in it.
Now what happens if you stumble upon a criticism that is only negative and even rudely presented?
Now what happens if you stumble upon a criticism that is only negative and even rudely presented?
Got me pretty bummed to be honest. It was a pill that was hard to swallow. It felt like all the praises I received up to that point were lies.
I guess it comes with trying to present your content to a bigger audience. You invite all sorts of people to review your work too.
I guess it comes with trying to present your content to a bigger audience. You invite all sorts of people to review your work too.
Then I felt bad cause I thought I was acting so immature. Being so obsessed with that one rude comment. Told myself maybe I wasn’t so good at this criticism stuff after all.
Now it took me a while but I was able to develop this set of rules for myself in the event I come across something like that again. (E.g. this sucks)
1) You don’t have to retaliate. You got the message clear that they didn’t like it. There is also no arguments to counter, so trying your hardest to find a comeback will only further exhaust and stress you.
2) If they do have arguments but presented rudely, try to rephrase the comment yourself. Make it how you would want it to be presented to you. That way you get what’s important, the thing that you have to improve on!
3) Reply to your now revised version of the comment. That means keep it clean as well. Ad hominem is 
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Defend what can/needs to be defended and say thank you for the things they pointed out that you failed to consider
Defend what can/needs to be defended and say thank you for the things they pointed out that you failed to consider
4) Remember that praise helps you keep motivated, but criticism helps you grow.
You need equal servings of both. So don’t let the fear of having people dislike your work discourage you from learning.
You need equal servings of both. So don’t let the fear of having people dislike your work discourage you from learning.
5) Feeling down from the comment is okay! It’s human! Getting angry/ sad temporarily is okay! You worked hard on it after all.
But it’s how you prove them wrong and get better next time is where it’s at!
But it’s how you prove them wrong and get better next time is where it’s at!
+ remember that everyone has crappy content/product/work. Don’t feel pressured to always be on top.
I have no idea how to end this thread but I guess just keep in mind that if your really want to get better at something, keep practicing! Keep improving! Everybody sucks at first
3Ps: Practice, Produce, Present, and repeat.
3Ps: Practice, Produce, Present, and repeat.
Idk wth I just did here. This thread is really for myself to be honest, but feel free to pick something up along the way. Ciao!
