I often wish there were more awareness and discussion of the ways in which sustained relationships (and by extension community) are inherently inaccessible for some folks.

While also recognizing how easily such a discussion can slip into glorification of hyperindividialism...

...and the apparent absurdity of wanting to connect with people around being disinclined to connecting with people.

So much of the work we do as activists, creatives and scholars depends on being able to pursue and maintain social relationships...

...And when that is something that does not come naturally to you, and which forced, uncomfortable, tiring and risk-laden, that becomes a hell of an access barrier.

And it's difficult to talk about in a few different ways:

- the aforementioned risk of
glorifying narratives of hyperindividualism that reinforce oppression

- people telling you they understand because they get lonely and/or anxious too (and inviting you to talk about it one-on-one)

- I get the sense there are few things considered less indispensable to the Human Experience™ than the drive for intimacy and sustained connection

Anyway tl;dr there are some folks who struggle with social interaction not because of a fear of rejection but because of a fear of being known and it'd be cool of there were more awareness of that especially in disability spaces