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cis ppl here’s how to better support trans ppl a thread by a nonbinary person
tw self harm sh mention
1 - put ur goddamn pronouns in bio . and no, not s/her or s/h, those can be neopronouns and s/h can also stand for self harm, if ur worried about ur aesthetic more than adding your full pronouns, your not helping
1 - put ur goddamn pronouns in bio . and no, not s/her or s/h, those can be neopronouns and s/h can also stand for self harm, if ur worried about ur aesthetic more than adding your full pronouns, your not helping
1 - on that point u still cant use h/him or h/h either, just write your full pronouns down.
2 - please um . don’t put yourself in trans spaces, don’t debate our identities, its not your place whatsoever, we dont give a fuck what you think about xenogenders or neoprns, shut up
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3 - stop asking people about their names. whatever name they give you is THEIR NAME. also pls stay the fuck away from using the words “real name” or i will deep fry your kneecaps
4 - use they/them when u dont know someone’s pronouns but if you KNOW someone’s pronouns and continue to use they/them (when they don’t use these prns) youre misgendering them
5 - “bro is gender neutral idc” “i call everyone sis” SHHHHH shut up i beg . not your place to decide . every person is different with what terms THEY are comfy with and that is not your place to decide at all, if you’re unsure, just ask or Dont use it
6 - if you misgender someone on accident just quickly correct yourself and move on, if you start rambling about how sorry you are ,,, yeah no all you need is a quick correction and move on bc most of us end up saying “it’s okay” to comfort those who misgendered us
7 - stop bringing up that you’re an ally, you’re just being a decent human being, no you are not lgbt for being an ally, if you’re a true ally your actions will speak for itself
8 - ive seen a few ppl do this before but ,,, stay the fuck away from gender and pronoun jokes https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="👍🏼" title="Thumbs up (mittelheller Hautton)" aria-label="Emoji: Thumbs up (mittelheller Hautton)">
9 - cis people,,, sweethearts,, you arent “facing transphobia” or “being misgendered” no you do not “feel the pain that trans ppl go through when being misgendered” because you’re CIS. you’re being misidentified, misgendering and transphobia are trans only terms
10 - stop babying trans people . please . stop calling us “babies” or just treating us like that all the time ++ ive seen ppl say “some 14 y/o trans kids on the internet etc etc” you’re making it seem like its a phase ++ even if a 14 y/o is trans? good for them fuck off
btw if u want me to add anything to the thread just lmk !! i definitely didnt cover everything and i could be missing some stuff <3
11 - not all nonbinary people go by they/them so don’t immediately assume that if they’re nonbinary they’re a they/them
12 - stop getting mad when we change our name several times in a row !! we’re trying to figure out what makes us comfortable
13 - gender expression ≠ gender identity, if someone’s nonbinary, and heavily presents feminine, they are STILL nonbinary, same for binary trans people
thread is muted btw if u want me to add anything dm me also nonbinary and trans stays follow me <3
14 - RIGHT IF SOMEONE USES TWO OR MORE SETS OF PRONOUNS . make sure to switch it up!!! if someone uses he/they or she/they and you only use the he or she because its easier :/ idk what to tell u
btw small note on the pronouns thing: put it in ur bio not your location and don’t use a font!! so it’s easily accessible to those who use screen readers
15 - i didnt think i need to say this but nonbinary people are not women lite . plus don’t say shit like womxn to “include” nonbinary ppl if you rlly need to just say afab/amab/agab (assigned female/male/gender at birth) so make sure to use these terms as theyre more inclusive
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16 - “passing” is a stupid concept trans ppl don’t need to pass to be considered valid, do NOT tell someone about their gender identity and how “they’re making no effort to pass” if thats how they wish to present, they’re valid.
17 - stop qrting transphobic tweets onto our tls, if you rlly need to just please tw transphobia, usually this app is where most of us are openly out, pls make it a safe space for us
18 - i just remembered this but if your someone tells you theyre closeted and asks you to refer to them using their deadname and pronouns,, please do it you’re keeping them safe
19 - on that note telling someone that your friend is trans is most definitely not your business and you’re putting them in danger, thats something only they can tell people when they feel safe enough to do so
btw another quick break to say pls feel free if u need to raise awareness on any topic in the replies !! that or gofundme’s or even personal issues !!
20 - if u need to shorten the word nonbinary don’t use nb because it means non black, and don’t use enby because many ppl find it infantilizing, instead use n-b or nby !!
21 - someone sent me this “culturally specific genders like two-spirit exist and should NOT be used by people who are not of that culture. and denying the existence of them is racist and transphobic.”
22 - not all trans people are comfortable with being asked how they figured it out, so please ask respectfully and don’t push it
