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*THREAD* Playing to WIN vs Playing to NOT lose
You risk being offensive
When you play life on offense
You risk being offensive
When you play life on offense
Defensive living is playing to NOT lose
You won't make a move
You aren't trying to score
All your effort goes into NOT getting scored on
Avoiding rejections & failures
You won't make a move
You aren't trying to score
All your effort goes into NOT getting scored on
Avoiding rejections & failures
Defensive players must realize
- Implied No's
- Soft No's
- Hard No's
All yield the same result
..which is no result
- Implied No's
- Soft No's
- Hard No's
All yield the same result
..which is no result
Implied No's (Rejecting Ourselves)- If you assume they won't buy
You don't ask for the sale
- If you assume she doesn't like you
You don't ask her out
The result is no result
But it is YOU who rejected yourself
Playing to NOT lose instead of ASKING & playing to win
Soft No's- You ask for the sale
You get a 'maybe' or no reply
- You ask her on a date
You get a 'maybe' or no reply
In these situations we so often ASSUME it's over & don't follow up
Attraction, Sales, ConversionsIs more so a volume knob
(cold, warm, warmer, cold, warm) it fluctuates
Not a light switch (like/don't like)
^ unless you're barking up the wrong tree & not socially calibrated
Ex - trying to sell a car to someone who needs a toaster
The amount of times people have had to message me 6+ times
To get me to sign up for something, close me on something, get me to do something, is fairly often
I don't find them annoying
I genuinely am just a busy person and sometimes need a 'push' & follow ups
To get me to sign up for something, close me on something, get me to do something, is fairly often
I don't find them annoying
I genuinely am just a busy person and sometimes need a 'push' & follow ups
Successful & Confident peopleNEVER VIEW THEMSELVES AS BEING ANNOYING
- If you bring a lot to the table
- You have good intentions
- You have a good offer, plan, idea
Following up is confidence not neediness
Persistence cracks resistance
...finally the thing defensive players FEAR MOST
Hard No's
- You ask for the sale or date or whatever it is
They either:
Flat out say no (respectfully or disrespectfully)
OR
Many make an excuse
"can't afford it"
"i got this thing coming up"
etc
Hard No's- You ask for the sale or date or whatever it is
They either:
Flat out say no (respectfully or disrespectfully)
OR
Many make an excuse
"can't afford it"
"i got this thing coming up"
etc
The amount of romances lost
Sales lost
Opportunities in life MISSED
Because people rejected themselves with assumptions from Implies No's & Soft No's
IS A LOT
and it doesn't need to be
Go for the hard no
"You risk being offensive when you play life on offense"
Sales lost
Opportunities in life MISSED
Because people rejected themselves with assumptions from Implies No's & Soft No's
IS A LOT
and it doesn't need to be
Go for the hard no
"You risk being offensive when you play life on offense"
This is not to be misinterpreted as
Become a pushy person
It's a important reminder to NOT reject yourself
GETTING HARD NO'S IS OK
"Feedback determines strategy not self worth"
Learn & tweak your strategy
Improving your offer & your ability to raise 'buying temperature'
Become a pushy person
It's a important reminder to NOT reject yourself
GETTING HARD NO'S IS OK
"Feedback determines strategy not self worth"
Learn & tweak your strategy
Improving your offer & your ability to raise 'buying temperature'
Play to WIN not to NOT lose
It's ok to get hard no's, it's a whole lot better than rejecting yourself
Because then you know...
You are playing on offense not defense
Thank you for reading
Cheers,
- Yous
It's ok to get hard no's, it's a whole lot better than rejecting yourself
Because then you know...
You are playing on offense not defense
Thank you for reading
Cheers, - Yous
BONUS NOTENEVER CONVINCE
After "no", you don't convince or change minds
Following up & persistence is to either get the sale or get a definite NO
It is NOT to convince people to change their minds
You create invites, but you don't make people walk through the door
