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Before you let your ignorance kick in and make you laugh out loud, try seeing life with a new perspective
No BS
A thread...
Read this if you use sentences like "Good vibes only" or "Just be positive and stay happy"
Before you let your ignorance kick in and make you laugh out loud, try seeing life with a new perspective
No BS
A thread...
Read this if you use sentences like "Good vibes only" or "Just be positive and stay happy"
Please read further only if you& #39;ve an open mind. If you& #39;re here to slap your concrete opinions, I& #39;d recommend not reading any further as nothing from this thread will change your fixed mindset.
Others, open up your mind to continue
Others, open up your mind to continue
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We see these internet personalities showing their impossibly perfect lives to us.
A life full of motivation, good happenings and positivity.
Nothing wrong with being positive.
But have you ever thought, why would anyone post their bad phrases on social media?
We see these internet personalities showing their impossibly perfect lives to us.
A life full of motivation, good happenings and positivity.
Nothing wrong with being positive.
But have you ever thought, why would anyone post their bad phrases on social media?
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We often say "Good vibes only", considering out failures and rejections as negative emotions.
But isn& #39;t life all about ups and downs? Why do we focus so much on suppressing these "bad vibes"?
Again, there& #39;s nothing wrong with being positive, but it shouldn& #39;t...
We often say "Good vibes only", considering out failures and rejections as negative emotions.
But isn& #39;t life all about ups and downs? Why do we focus so much on suppressing these "bad vibes"?
Again, there& #39;s nothing wrong with being positive, but it shouldn& #39;t...
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...at the cost of negligence of our true emotions.
Suppressing our true emotions leads to nothing but much larger disasters in the form of breakdowns.
When our friends say that they had a bad day, we just slap them with "just be positive"
...at the cost of negligence of our true emotions.
Suppressing our true emotions leads to nothing but much larger disasters in the form of breakdowns.
When our friends say that they had a bad day, we just slap them with "just be positive"
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Completely ignoring the fact that emotions, may it be positive or negative, if not vented out, lead to breakdowns.
No one can ever be positive all day, everyday. We& #39;re just fooling ourselves if we think so.
Completely ignoring the fact that emotions, may it be positive or negative, if not vented out, lead to breakdowns.
No one can ever be positive all day, everyday. We& #39;re just fooling ourselves if we think so.
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A person who is going through a bad phase, after being bombarded by "just be positive", stops expressing his/her real emotions.
Their default answer becomes, "I& #39;m fine". But deep down, they need someone to hug them, and them, "no, you& #39;re not"
A person who is going through a bad phase, after being bombarded by "just be positive", stops expressing his/her real emotions.
Their default answer becomes, "I& #39;m fine". But deep down, they need someone to hug them, and them, "no, you& #39;re not"
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We want everyone to be ideally positive, everyone around us positive. Which is necessary for growth.
But this doesn& #39;t mean that you should kick someone out of your life just because he/she is suffering and going through a bad phase.
We want everyone to be ideally positive, everyone around us positive. Which is necessary for growth.
But this doesn& #39;t mean that you should kick someone out of your life just because he/she is suffering and going through a bad phase.
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In my personal experience, literally everyone in my life kicked me away because I was going through a bad phase 2 years ago.
And even now, after 10 months of being high on life, without any sorrow, I& #39;m going through a bad phase recovery.
In my personal experience, literally everyone in my life kicked me away because I was going through a bad phase 2 years ago.
And even now, after 10 months of being high on life, without any sorrow, I& #39;m going through a bad phase recovery.
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My body is recovering from the jolt of panic attacks and anxiety. Due to which, my body stays exhausted all day long, even after sleeping or resting.
But whenever someone asks how I& #39;m doing, I cannot share what& #39;s really going on.
Just being positive is not the answer
My body is recovering from the jolt of panic attacks and anxiety. Due to which, my body stays exhausted all day long, even after sleeping or resting.
But whenever someone asks how I& #39;m doing, I cannot share what& #39;s really going on.
Just being positive is not the answer
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Understand the breadth of your emotions irrespective of them being positive or negative, and asses them logically.
Nothing is more harmful than suppressing your real emotions under "just be positive"
Understand the breadth of your emotions irrespective of them being positive or negative, and asses them logically.
Nothing is more harmful than suppressing your real emotions under "just be positive"
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When you& #39;re dismissing "negative" emotions, you& #39;re not paying attention to a good chunk of information that is very useful for you in your life.
You need to accept the fact that you& #39;re experiencing negative emotions at the same time, commit to improvement and change
When you& #39;re dismissing "negative" emotions, you& #39;re not paying attention to a good chunk of information that is very useful for you in your life.
You need to accept the fact that you& #39;re experiencing negative emotions at the same time, commit to improvement and change
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As @MoodyKhedr said in his TED talk (link in the end),
"Society is setting for us to be positive all the time, as if it& #39;s not human nature to be negative"
Mahmoud continues, "Mental illness in 50% of the population, starts at age 14!"
Cont& #39;d
As @MoodyKhedr said in his TED talk (link in the end),
"Society is setting for us to be positive all the time, as if it& #39;s not human nature to be negative"
Mahmoud continues, "Mental illness in 50% of the population, starts at age 14!"
Cont& #39;d
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"Imagine being 14 and going through your biggest challenges, and you go out and try to talk to somebody, and what do they tell you?"
"It& #39;s just a phase"
"You don& #39;t know what struggle is, you& #39;ve no idea"
"Be positive, just get through it"
"Imagine being 14 and going through your biggest challenges, and you go out and try to talk to somebody, and what do they tell you?"
"It& #39;s just a phase"
"You don& #39;t know what struggle is, you& #39;ve no idea"
"Be positive, just get through it"
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Hence @MoodyKhedr started @Flora_Mind
He explained that mental health is a continuum, it& #39;s not black and white
This chart explains, when you need therapy, and when you professional help
Hence @MoodyKhedr started @Flora_Mind
He explained that mental health is a continuum, it& #39;s not black and white
This chart explains, when you need therapy, and when you professional help
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After a research by @Harvard& #39;s Dr. Susan David, on 70k people, she found out that nearly a third of us, either judge ourselves for having so called "bad emotions", like anger, grief or being sad and we actively try to push those feelings aside.
After a research by @Harvard& #39;s Dr. Susan David, on 70k people, she found out that nearly a third of us, either judge ourselves for having so called "bad emotions", like anger, grief or being sad and we actively try to push those feelings aside.
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And we don& #39;t just do it to ourselves, we do it to the people we love, to the people that come up and talk to us
Positivity pushed to an extreme, it is toxic. Psychologists call it toxic positivity.
And we don& #39;t just do it to ourselves, we do it to the people we love, to the people that come up and talk to us
Positivity pushed to an extreme, it is toxic. Psychologists call it toxic positivity.
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Toxic Positivity: The push for a mental state in which we only experience and show "positive" emotions. It is a tendency to react to others& #39; sufferings and struggles with reductive statements of positivity
Toxic Positivity: The push for a mental state in which we only experience and show "positive" emotions. It is a tendency to react to others& #39; sufferings and struggles with reductive statements of positivity
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It instantly shuts down the emotional conversation, that super unique opportunity for you to seek help or someone to seek help is gone. And because of that, people and up not seeking help.
It instantly shuts down the emotional conversation, that super unique opportunity for you to seek help or someone to seek help is gone. And because of that, people and up not seeking help.
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Two studies published in motivation and emotion, show that those who acknowledge and validate their emotions, progress way better that those who live in denial.
Second, it divides emotions into good and bad, and it demonizes the "bad emotions"
Two studies published in motivation and emotion, show that those who acknowledge and validate their emotions, progress way better that those who live in denial.
Second, it divides emotions into good and bad, and it demonizes the "bad emotions"
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The truth is that, there are no good or bad emotions. Every single emotion has a function, which tells us what& #39;s going on in our bodies and environment and how we should react to it.
The truth is that, there are no good or bad emotions. Every single emotion has a function, which tells us what& #39;s going on in our bodies and environment and how we should react to it.
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We don& #39;t need to be happy all the time. That& #39;s literally not possible. By living in a fake positive emotional state, we don& #39;t get to live the real positive emotions.
We don& #39;t need to be happy all the time. That& #39;s literally not possible. By living in a fake positive emotional state, we don& #39;t get to live the real positive emotions.
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It& #39;s just like physical health. Imagine if you break your hand, and instead to taking you to hospital, people are telling you, "just be happy"
Will it work?
It& #39;s just like physical health. Imagine if you break your hand, and instead to taking you to hospital, people are telling you, "just be happy"
Will it work?
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That& #39;s why language matters, language validates our experiences or negates them, it leaves us feeling appreciated or neglected, happy or sad.
That& #39;s why language matters, language validates our experiences or negates them, it leaves us feeling appreciated or neglected, happy or sad.
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Toxic positivity ultimately blocks people from seeking help. Help that can not only improve their lives, but also save someone& #39;s life.
Toxic positivity ultimately blocks people from seeking help. Help that can not only improve their lives, but also save someone& #39;s life.
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Here& #39;s @MoodyKhedr& #39;s TED Talk https://youtu.be/5EOj2Z7hw5w ">https://youtu.be/5EOj2Z7hw...
Here& #39;s @MoodyKhedr& #39;s TED Talk https://youtu.be/5EOj2Z7hw5w ">https://youtu.be/5EOj2Z7hw...
My life& #39;s biggest tragedy, some other day...
