My friend's wife spent 1 year ranting to everyone who cared to listen that her husband had refused to let her work for the past 18 months.

She spread it to the point that everybody began to see my friend as mean, unreasonable, & the epitome of the kind of man every woman should

pray not to get married to.

She continued to demonize the man until a family meeting was summoned on the matter.

The man was summoned all the way from abroad where he was based.

Everyone at the family meeting was ready to rip into him & tear him apart for being abroad &

still trying to make his wife's life miserable here.

After everybody had spoken, the man dropped a few proverbs, then proceeded to produce several pieces of evidence including call logs, chats & text messages showing clearly that his wife had been cheating on him.

Lemme tell

y'all what happened.

He had, on 2 different visits to Nigeria, found out his wife was cheating with her co-worker. The 1st time, she apologised & the man forgave.

The 2nd time he found out, he decided that maybe it was best to get her another job since the 1st 2 times, she was

cheating with the same co-worker.

He caught her again a 3rd & 4th time, cheating with a co-worker at the new work place.

He got her yet another job; and just like clockwork, a 5th time! And with yet another co-worker at her new work place.

Oga decided that since she won't

stop fvcking her co-workers, maybe she should stop working entirely. He flexed his muscles & made sure she wasn't employed anywhere in the state.

All this, the man handled in-house without letting anybody know that she was cheating, not even his own brothers.

The 5 times he found out she was cheating happened over the course of 3 years; but 6 months without a job, the whole kindred, extended family, and everyone else who cared to listen, learnt that the man was a wicked person that wanted her to waste away.

This is what I've learnt;

many Nigerian women are naturally wailers. They'll spend all day screaming oppression, but will never tell you what they've done. This is because men naturally don't talk.

Today they're ranting about fresh food.

The only thing that's required to be fresh in soup is the

veggies oo! Only that! There's no fresh meal for one person that takes more than 30mins to prepare, but they'll wail about it all freaking day, all the while demanding that the man takes care of all their needs of vanity. The man does all this without complaint. You'll never hear

them hail him in public for the ones he does, but will not hesitate to throw him under the bus for wanting fresh food.

A female friend of mine came to me with similar complaint 5 years ago. I asked:

Me: did he grow up eating fresh food?

Female friend: yes

Me: did you know

this preference before you married him?

FF: yes

Me: how many times has he had to inject atleast 2 million into a new business for you because you mismanaged it every time & it fails?

FF: 3 times

Me: how many vacations do you go for outside the country yearly?

FF: once a year with the kids

Me: does the man join you?

FF: NO

Me: and it's fresh food that is your problem?

If you people like continue listening to Ozzy of River Thames & her tales de d'ubervilles; it's your family that'll go up in smoke.