I don’t think it’s helpful to ask/expect anyone who has faced mistreatment or injustice to forgive.

Forgiveness means absolving them for their actions and although we may no longer be vested in a need for them to be held accountable, that is a different thing entirely.

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Expecting forgiveness is another way of asking someone to
*let it drop*

In other words, we no longer want to hear it, we have moved on and we expect the person who has not, to move on too.

Simply put, *forgiveness* makes it more pleasant for everyone else.

Neither do we want to remain either angry, consumed without hatred or a need for vengeance/revenge.

All of these states- whilst part of the process of coming to terms with all forms of betrayal, are not healthy when we become stuck in them and unable to move beyond.

As the saying goes: Hate only hurts the person carrying it.

What we really need are the tools to process what was done to us and then move beyond it. Without forgetting what happened. Without forgiving who hurt us.

The only person we need to forgive is ourselves. All to often we would never hold others to the standards we have set ourselves.

We need to stop blaming ourselves for the things that were done to us.

As the saying goes: Inhale the future, exhale the past.