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grooming: a thread
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grooming: a thread
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If you think you are being groomed, it will almost feel impossible to get out of that situation. Regardless of what your partner has told you please tell somebody. Whether that be a friend or someone with more authority. That is the first step.
It’ll probably feel almost impossible to escape because you’ve been programmed into not wanting to. Please know that you aren’t safe, it’s an illusion that is being created by your abuser so you stick with them. All of it is an illusion.
You are not alone, your friends are not terrible people. You are loved, but not by your abuser. Please understand that your gut feeling, all of these negative doubts you have are 100% true.
Your partner would never get with you under the circumstances they have if they actually cared or loved you because they’d understand it’s wrong and get help.
If they’re doing even some of those red flags let somebody know. It’s a scary and horrible feeling but you need support from outside sources. Other than your partner. You have to let yourself realise the danger you are in, you have to force yourself to leave even if it is scary.
If this person has something over you, personal information and you are scared for your safety this is where either authorities or your parents/anybody with authority like a teacher have to get involved.
Again it’s a terrifying process but the more people who know the safer you will be. It’ll most likely take a long time for the control to ware off but you have to force yourself or tell somebody who you know will.
Normally authorities will look into the person, it would lead to their devices getting removed by their police. If you are looking into contacting police forces please contact your local police and there local police. You can do this via email also if it’s hard to talk via phone.
If you see your friend with an adult, instantly be against it. Again, no adult would get with a minor because if they don’t realise how wrong it is there is definitely something wrong with them. An ADULT always has more control and influence and that’s why it doesn’t work.
You are endangering a child if you get with them as a minor while you’re an adult. If your friend slips up, makes mistakes with lying, is overprotective about the adult their dating then PLEASE talk to them and if they’re still persistent contact a family member of theres.
I know it’s scary and there’s a chance you might lose a friend but you have to put their safety over your friendship in that situation, even if that feels horrible if your friend is in danger contact somebody and DO NOT interact with the predator, not in anyway.
Just avoid any contact with them. You can also contact https://www.ceop.police.uk/safety-centre/ it explains how you can report online groomers if you are concerned and this does remain anonymous.
For victims of grooming, please know you are NOT alone and it is NOT your fault regardless of people saying otherwise. You were powerless and not in control and honestly are beyond strong for going through what you did. This is not your fault, you were manipulated into it.
We have helplines that you can call, and talk to if you’ve been through this 0799900 4363 or 0845 644 0704. These people so have an email that you can contact and talk to, info@sikhhelpine.com and there are a multitude of sources and people that are here for you.
I’ve explained as much as I possibly could in this thread but for further information this website explains EVERYTHING and gives more helplines https://www.nspcc.org.uk/what-is-child-abuse/types-of-abuse/grooming/
Please, educate yourself. Even if it’s not currently happening to you KNOW the signs. Make sure it’s fermented in your brain. That way you’ll be safer, and WARN and protect others.
Also if you aren’t stopping your friends from dating minors then you are letting it happen. Your silence speaks VOLUMES. Advocate against this, spread it around and educate people. That’s how you help.
