a question thread for ppl who experience romantic attraction bc im aro/ace& would like to understand . feel free to skip questions or whtver idc

if u dont want to answer the questions itd be helpful if u rt this bc id id actually rly like some answers ahjkghs

1. describe romantic attraction in any way u want. what does it feel like?

2. is it easy to tell the difference between romantic and platonic attraction? what difference in feelings is there in wanting to be someones friend vs wanting to date them?

3. if u experience romantic attraction toward someone, what sorta things do u want from them? do u want to date, kiss, etc?

4. why do u guys want partners so bad? ik theres 'i want a gf' twitter, but why? do u just crave intimacy? would a close friend make u just as happy or is there a reason u want to specifically have someone to date?

5. how many genuine crushes would u say u had? what did they feel like rather than just fleeting crushes?

6. do u prefer reading romantic content over platonic content? (if yes thats totally ok i just want to know)

7. someone explain to me what comphet is. ppl say that jungkook is their comphet boy or smth. does that mean it feels like ur attracted to him even if u arent? how does it feel?

8. does a crush irl feel different than if u had a crush on someone on twt? do u like them in different ways? if yes, how exactly?

9. when was the youngest u considered urself to have a crush on someone? looking back, do u think it was a genuine crush?

10. why do u get crushes. like what makes u like a person. do u like their personality, what they look like?

11. can u guys srsly not get over a crush? when ppl in movies& stuff have sad breakups i dont get it. cant u just move on? /srs

12. do u know what aesthetic alterous& sensual attraction are?

13. have u felt aesthetic attraction (thinking someone is rly pretty/handsome/gorgeous/etc) outside of a romantic context? can u think ppl are pretty without having crushes on them?

14. if u experience romantic attraction toward someone do u always feel aesthetic attraction too? would u include aesthetic attraction in the definition of a 'crush'?

15. do u experience sensual attraction (which, despite the name, is wanting nonsexual contact with someone) often? who do u feel the attraction toward?

16. ik this was a thread for ppl who experience romantic attraction, but if u experience sexual attraction do u think its easy to tell the difference between sensual& sexual attraction?

17. do u understand the idea of having a squish (a platonic crush)? do u get them urself? it is an easy idea to understand?

18. why do u ship ppl? in the cases of real ppl u guys like to say 'its just for fun' but why do u ship the specific ppl that u do? why taekook over vhope, etc? is it bc of the dynamic? would u be just as happy to read platonic content abt ur ship?

19. can u easily tell if ur experiencing romantic attraction or is it like in the fanfics where ur fucking oblivious for 40k?

20. this is kinda a repeat question but when did u start getting crushes? what age do u think its appropriate to start dating?

21. why do some of u only get crushes on 1 person how is that possible? can u only feel romantic attraction toward 1 person at a time?

22. would you ever want a queerplatonic partner? im not explaining the concept to u its too complicated but this link should explain it !! https://aromantic.wikia.org/wiki/Queerplatonic

23. the idea ppl experience romantic attraction is kinda weird to me im not convinced u guys arent making this stuff up or that im experiencing the same stuff as u& just dont realize it. do u get the concept of aro ppl never experiencing romantic attraction?

24. if u read a story where 2 ppl seemed to care for each other a lot& were rly close do u think ud assume they were dating? (its ok if u would im just curious)

25. if a popular fandom had a canonically aro/ace character do u think ppl would still romantically ship them w other characters? (im not asking if u urself would im just curious if u think other ppl would)

26. if someone did write an aro/ace character in a romantic relationship how would u feel about that? (also : would u feel like its ur place to tell them what theyre doing isnt right as someone who isnt aro/ace? im just curious)

27. u know how sometimes u can have a favorite friend? is the person ur dating ur favorite? are they ur favorite bc u experience romantic attraction toward them or?

28. so can u not decide who to have a crush on? like u srsly cant control who u like?

29. do u stop having romantic attraction toward someone if u learn theyre an asshole? like how does that work?

30. maybe i should have asked this sooner but what is romantic attraction? question 28& 29 made me realize i have no idea how this is supposed to work

31. why do u guys want to kiss ppl? is this smth u enjoy doing? i dont get it but maybe thats just bc ive never kissed anyone. are there any of u who havent kissed anyone but still want to/think they would enjoy it?

32. now why tf would u use tongue when kissing thats just gross is this also smth u guys enjoy? and its not gross? do some of u not like it is that how this stuff works? /lh

33. if any of u are ace do u think that changes how u experience romantic attraction?

34. how do u feel about other ppl doing pda? is it gross watching them kiss or whtver or does it not matter to u?

35. would u be as happy with a queerplatonic relationship as u would be a romantic one?

36. from the answers ive seen so far, i want a lot of what u guys do. do u think theres a difference between romantic& platonic actions other than intent?

37. how do u feel about aro/ace ppl identifying as bi/pan/gay/lesbian/etc bc they experience other types of attraction toward ppl?

38. most of u described romantic attraction as feeling rly happy& safe when theyre with u& always thinking abt them& stuff. do u think someone can feel that way someone nonromantically?