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I forgave my abuser only after he had his daughter. He had been guilty before too but I never really cared..
When his daughter was born, I was still cold. I wondered why God would do that..
Eventually when she was a toddler, I saw them at a gathering.. (1/n) https://twitter.com/paropizi/status/1309059041260429314
When his daughter was born, I was still cold. I wondered why God would do that..
Eventually when she was a toddler, I saw them at a gathering.. (1/n) https://twitter.com/paropizi/status/1309059041260429314
She crawled up to me very excited and happy.. some bitter part of me just got crushed completely that day. All I could think was "how is it her fault?"
Her dad's very protective of her too. You can see his pain when she cries.. I used to scoff at that before. (2/n)
Her dad's very protective of her too. You can see his pain when she cries.. I used to scoff at that before. (2/n)
Now I've just decided that it's okay.
He genuinely regretted what he'd done and it only ever settled in with me after his daughter crawled up to me that day. I consciously forgave him after two weeks of trying to figure out what I felt since then. (3/n)
He genuinely regretted what he'd done and it only ever settled in with me after his daughter crawled up to me that day. I consciously forgave him after two weeks of trying to figure out what I felt since then. (3/n)
After years of not even replying to his Salam and being just incredibly curt towards him, I've actually begun responding to his greetings. I don't mind talking to him sometimes.
I still keep my distance but when his daughter is around, I can't help but tell him
I still keep my distance but when his daughter is around, I can't help but tell him
How adorable she looks. Or how pretty her dress is. How cute her little hat is..
He looks at me with guilt every single time. (Like he should)
But whoever said that daughters are not a mercy for sinners clearly doesn't know what it feels like to look at a toddler and wonder if
He looks at me with guilt every single time. (Like he should)
But whoever said that daughters are not a mercy for sinners clearly doesn't know what it feels like to look at a toddler and wonder if
She'll somehow be paying the price for what her father did to you.. And how much it hurts to think that.
The only reason I forgave her dad was because I wanted to protect her from ever becoming part of that punishment that karma inflicts. The whole idea that
The only reason I forgave her dad was because I wanted to protect her from ever becoming part of that punishment that karma inflicts. The whole idea that
God doesn't forgive until the person you have wronged forgives you, no matter how sorry you are.
I felt like until I forgive, there's a chance he would face something in his life similar to what I faced and it might be through his daughter and the thought was just
I felt like until I forgive, there's a chance he would face something in his life similar to what I faced and it might be through his daughter and the thought was just
Too horrible.
She did become a source of mercy for him. She was the thing that put forgiveness in my heart. The one that made me realise that holding onto a grudge isn't worth it. Even if it's for something so horrible. And when a person is clearly ashamed of what he did.
She did become a source of mercy for him. She was the thing that put forgiveness in my heart. The one that made me realise that holding onto a grudge isn't worth it. Even if it's for something so horrible. And when a person is clearly ashamed of what he did.
I'm not saying that this is what everyone experiences or this is how every one should think, but my faith in the fact that daughters really are a mercy was truly established when I saw the effect his daughter had on me.
Somehow somewhere justifiably or not I forgave him.
Somehow somewhere justifiably or not I forgave him.
Maybe if someone really is deserving of mercy, then their daughters play a part in bringing that mercy TO them. Or maybe it's unique and personal to everyone.
But don't EVER tell me that daughters are born to pay for their father's sins.
Because Quraysh used to think that too.
But don't EVER tell me that daughters are born to pay for their father's sins.
Because Quraysh used to think that too.
