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"Sexual fluidity" and "queer" are terms that specifically mess w/lesbians& #39; ability to recognize themselves & form community but they aren& #39;t accurate or safe terms for the majority of bisexual women, either...
There are distinct experiences that bi women have in sexual & romantic relationships w/men & women. Specifically, bi women are at increased risk of abuse from men due to homophobia & male entitlement to women& #39;s sexuality. Queer terminology refuses to recognize this...
Bi women don& #39;t usually experience relationships w/trans ppl to be identical to those with "cis" members of the same gender. A moral burden is placed on bi women to be accepting no matter what. Queer language distorts their ability to name the reality of having a trans partner...
Self-actualized bi women w/ a stable sexual identity often don& #39;t appreciate terms like "sexual fluidity", since they are always bisexual no matter the relationship (a cornerstone of bisexual activism) & their orientation isn& #39;t inherently "fluid" or mutable...
"Sexual fluidity" isn& #39;t an accurate term for the shifts in sexual expression some bisexual women experience when dating partners of various sexes, sexual orientations, or gender identities. It makes personal patterns- whether healthy or unhealthy- out to be unpredictable mush...
Words like "sexual fluidity" & "queer" make it more difficult for bi women to set boundaries in ways that overlap w/lesbians. It moralizes boundary setting, makes lack of sexual boundaries proof of personal sexual identity, & disallows making boundaries by sex or trans status...
Bi women also face a unique pressure towards polyamory in a number of queer-heavy scenes, as well as in general relationships w/men. If you are "up for anything" by definition, why "exclude" additional people from your intimate life unless, unless...
I think you don& #39;t hear a lot of bi women talking about this b/c many bi women have implicitly believed misogynistic things about their sexualities, or feel like no one would back them b/c unfortunately one of the only respites from queer nonsense is the hetero world...
I hope more bi women can be emboldened to discuss how this affects them personally, as bi women. This TED talk by Shannon Thrace, ex-wife of a transwoman who transitioned during the relationship, is one of the few I know that mentions it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M3mnUMmUAHQ&feature=youtu.be">https://www.youtube.com/watch... https://www.youtube.com/watch...
