Hey, so... It's #BiVisibilityDay. I've been thinking a lot lately about how my personal identity has evolved over my lifetime, how uncomfortable I used to be with labels, because they are often woefully inadequate. But Bisexual has always best described me, to me.

I came out as bi for the first time in seventh grade. I came out as gay when I was a sophomore in High School. I came out, again as Bi when I was a sophomore in College. And then again, when I finally opened up about myself to my professional field on New Years Day, 2014.

I'm not always the loudest about my identity. My taste runs a little mass market, and consequently I think my identity can become kind of invisible in my work. It can become invisible in my day to day life, too. And I need to consciously work against that...

Not JUST because I remember what it felt like to be a kid wildly in love with comics, desperately looking for evidence that any of the writers of the books I loved might be like me... Though that IS important to me. I want to BE there for the rising generations of comic queers...

But there's ALSO nothing more alienating than feeling closed off and unseen. It digs into your brain and fucks with your confidence and your well being. And it fucks with your identity. There is a power in owning who you are, even if it can get tiring to do it.

I've had family members ask why I don't delete the bit on my wikipedia page that says I'm openly bisexual. I've had contacts in the hollywood space tell me to downplay my identity to keep myself from being pigeonholed as just a queer writer, and remain eligible for more projects.

It gets exhausting, honestly. There are days where it feels like I'm not queer enough to feel comfortable in queer spaces, and that I'm too queer to feel comfortable in straight spaces. But this has never been about being comfortable or getting into a space... It's just who I am.

I've never been a "write to the audience" kind of person. I'm thrilled when people like my stuff, but at the end of the day I'm writing for myself, whether it's the myself of today or the myself from high school. I want to pave my own path, and do it my way, on my own terms.

I want to be better about being visible, because I owe it to myself.

And so do you.

Anyways. Happy #BiVisibilityDay. The world is on fire, but you are not alone. I love you all.