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Mr Tope Adesipo, husband and a father of one, shares with us 10 ways to build an emotionally safe home for your family from a man's perspective.
1. Make your partner your best friend.
It's important to feel vulnerable and unguarded when in the home.
1. Make your partner your best friend.
It's important to feel vulnerable and unguarded when in the home.
And most humans used to feel really safe and secure when they are with their friends. They can do anything. Talk about anything. Share experiences and consistently look out for each other.
Many people are in marriage acting all too serious and playing their traditional role in the home. While that may be okay, it's also important to loose it up and work through the process without a defined traditional manual.
2. Acceptance.
One of the best way you can make your marriage thrive and your home safe for the family is by accepting of each other's flaws and imperfections. While working everyday to change some of it.
One of the best way you can make your marriage thrive and your home safe for the family is by accepting of each other's flaws and imperfections. While working everyday to change some of it.
You can not live happily in the home with someone you have not learned to love unaltetered. You have to decide to say this is say this is who my wife or husband is and I already accept that this is who she or he is but i will work everyday towards helping them change.
3. Be Transparent
Transparency is one of life's most important virtues with transparency you get more trusting of each other. There should be no secrets between friends and if you wish to be best friend with your partner, there must be no secrets.
Transparency is one of life's most important virtues with transparency you get more trusting of each other. There should be no secrets between friends and if you wish to be best friend with your partner, there must be no secrets.
You must be transparent in all your dealings for your home to feel emotionally safe. When you share everything without holding a thing back with your partner, it gives you a different sense of security.
4. Support your Family.
Being a pillar of support is one of the most important essence of marriage and raising a family. You have to consistently be supportive of all your partner endeavors, dreams and aspirations.
Being a pillar of support is one of the most important essence of marriage and raising a family. You have to consistently be supportive of all your partner endeavors, dreams and aspirations.
The feeling that you are a support system to your family creates a level of security emotionally for you and for the family.
5. Communication
Communication is a critical component of a working family. When something bothers you, say it. When you notice that your partner is doing the wrong thing or something you don't like, say it. You do not need to turn a blind eye to your partner’s every fault.
Communication is a critical component of a working family. When something bothers you, say it. When you notice that your partner is doing the wrong thing or something you don't like, say it. You do not need to turn a blind eye to your partner’s every fault.
Friends do have disagreements, and that is also healthy for a good relationship. However, if you see something about your partner that annoys you, always be vocal about it.
However, you need to be tactful and speak without accusing or blaming. When your mood is low due to one reason or the other, share it with your partner and go through it together.
6. Sacrifice
Any man or woman who has not learnt the act of sacrifice and selflessness have no business raising a home or building a family.
Any man or woman who has not learnt the act of sacrifice and selflessness have no business raising a home or building a family.
If you are all about yourself and not defaultly putting your family first, you can't be happy in your home and therefore you can't feel safe emotionally in the home.
You must wire yourself in a way that allows you to put your family first in many situations. At times making small sacrifices or compromises like watching the TV program that your spouse wants to watch or forgoing the desire to eat a particular meal or buy a particular thing.
7. Spend Time together
This is one of the best ways to improve the bond between you and your partner and the family. Do things that you both enjoy doing.
This is one of the best ways to improve the bond between you and your partner and the family. Do things that you both enjoy doing.
If it's going on dinner dates, you don't have to stop when you now have a functional family.If it's traveling round the world together, take days off work or your business n explore the world. Spending more quality time together creates an emotional haven for you n your partner.
8. MUTUAL respect.
I realize earlier on in marriage that one of the best way to maintain the bond with your partner is to be respectful towards each other.
I realize earlier on in marriage that one of the best way to maintain the bond with your partner is to be respectful towards each other.
Though many times as humans you may fall short by saying disrespectful things but you must immediately walk back and be careful not to say things you won't like to be said to you. Mutual respect in any relationship not just in the family makes the relationship stronger.
Criticize but constructively. Criticism and self appraisal is important but you must be careful to make sure the criticism of each other are within the limits of mutual respect.
9. Humility and Grace
Being best friends with someone means not letting ego get the best of both of you. You must be willing to make the needed compromise to settle rifts and not let it degenerate.
Being best friends with someone means not letting ego get the best of both of you. You must be willing to make the needed compromise to settle rifts and not let it degenerate.
You do not want to stay away from your partner or maybe, even drift away from each other for some silly fight.
10. Intimacy
Sexual attraction to your partner is key in maintaining an emotional balance in the home. You must be intentional about your intimacy and chemistry. Do things that are exciting. Many people love language or even most people is physical touch.
Sexual attraction to your partner is key in maintaining an emotional balance in the home. You must be intentional about your intimacy and chemistry. Do things that are exciting. Many people love language or even most people is physical touch.
Intimacy is one of the ways to feel emotionally safe in the home. You must spice up your sexual life. Do things outside the box and don't be boring. Both of you must be solely responsible for your sexual satisfaction.
Thank you for reading! ( F.T)
Thank you for reading! ( F.T)
