Marital rape and Islam
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Islam is the only religion that pays attention to women’s rights categorically and upholds the fundamental right of a wife to be free from ‘harm’. If a husband forces his wife into sexual intercourse,

he can only do so by harming her and since this is prohibited in Islam, the act is clearly ‘unlawful’ and therefore an offence.
If your prime reason to marry someone is to fulfill your sexual desires. Then the problem is with YOU

Now here is the main thing, if there is no love or respect between the spouses then the topic of sex is invalid. At this point it’s obligatory for either of the spouse to leave or go for divorce.
If you respect your spouse, you would be able to understand their denial.

There’s no legal justification for marital rape in Islam, when our Prophet clearly said that treat your wives better and how does forcing yourself upon her is “better”?
Usually extremists have the rebuttal
“Wife can’t deny her body to her husband”

Who ever says this, brings no islamic source to back their claims and not even a scholarly reference
Allah said in Surah Nisa verse 19 “ And live with them honourably. If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of good”

For such an intimate relationship, it has to be consensual. This is not even open to debate. Even the most authentic scholars say this. If you force yourself upon your wife, you are going against the rights of spouse which was mentioned by Islam

The day she marries you, she becomes your responsibility. A man, being a degree higher than a woman has to show how protective he is when it comes to safeguarding his wife. Be someone who she feels she can come to when she is in trouble or worried.

Yes, Men are seen as the guardians of women in Islam. That does not mean that women are seen as any less than men. For surely, what is being guarded is more precious than the one guarding it.

There are so many hadiths where our prophet specifically mentioned about how you should treat your wives

“Best among you is best to his wife’

“The words of a husband to his wife, “I truly love you,” should never leave her heart.” – The Prophet of Islam (SAWW).

It was narrated that Mu‘awiyah al-Qushayri (may Allah be pleased with him) said: I said: O Messenger of Allah, what are the rights of the wife of one of us over him? He said:

“That you feed her as you feed yourself, clothe her as you clothe yourself, do not strike the face, do not disgrace her and if you want to shun her (by way of disciplining her) do not leave home.”

Extremists have even changed the meaning of nikkah/marriage as a form of sexual consent in marriage, they even tweeted about it and I don’t even know where did they come up with this

Marriage is beautiful relation between two people. Don't add any other relation/things in it to lose the charm of marriage. Allah says in Quran " And we created you in pairs" (78:8). You have been paired to spend your life with someone whom Allah have paired you with.

All these things which you are too concerned about ( especially sex) can only give you temporary satisfaction. But after sometimes when you will get bored of all of these things you start getting bored from your life and from your spouse. Which turns marriage into toxic relation

Marry Because you are ready to complete half of your Deen and the sunnah of the prophet (pbuh).
Marry Because you want to Fulfil DESTINY.
Marry to meet someone whom Allah have paired with you.

Start this relation with love and respect because that stays throughout your life no matter how old you get.
Remember that marriage is never about kids,money or sex

Ibn Katheer (may Allah have mercy on him) said: “And live with them in kindness” means: speak kindly to them, and act kindly towards them, and make your appearance good as much as you can.

Just as you would like that from her, do that for her too, as Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning): “And due to the wives is similar to what is expected of them, according to what is reasonable” [al-Baqarah 2:228].

And the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The best of you are the best of you to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives.” It was the Prophet’s character to always treat his wives kindly, with a cheerful, gentle and playful attitude;

he would spend generously on them and joke with his wives.

Conclusion;
For the sake of argument, don’t go against Islam just to prove yourself right even if the other person whom you are arguing with is a hypocrite. That doesn’t allow you to defend what’s wrong.

For some issues, you don’t need to read Quran or Hadiths. Read the life of the prophet first and then see yourself what Islam says on certain issues. You are not an imam so keep your views to yourself if you can’t bring legitimate evidences from Quran or hadiths.