Things that have taken me a while to understand...

1. You can’t shame someone into accountability.
2. People will expect you to make decisions that THEY do not have to live with.
3. Abusers are VERY skilled at eliciting sympathy.
4. Stop being surprised by something inevitable

5. The time that you’re most stressed is the time you need to be most alert.
6. People say one thing but act another.
7. How you feel now will change.
8. Manipulative people will deliberately trigger a reaction out of you.
9. Abusers can be victims and victims can be abusers.

10. People will minimise the abuse of people they like and , conversely, maximise the abuse of people they don’t like.