1/ Quick thread. It’s #BiVisibilityDay, and so I thought I would mention what I call my “iceberg theory of bisexuality”: which is that for every openly bisexual person in your friends’ circle or workplace, there are likely a few others just below the surface.

2/ There’s still a lot of ignorance about bisexual people - I received a weapons-grade dose of it just the other week - so that’s why I am open about it. (I hope that the relevant individual, should they read this, is utterly ashamed of themselves.)

3/ Now and then I get messages from bisexual people, mostly men, who say that it’s helpful that I talk about this subject, so that’s mostly why I do it. We’ve got a lot of serious challenges facing this world so people should really be too busy to be ignorant, yet here we are.

4/ I am not naive about the countless bridges I have burned by talking about this subject. But I said twenty years ago that I would live as truly to myself and others as I could, and that I would still make the life I wanted despite those challenges. And I have done both.

5/ Experiencing bigotry for my sexuality has been interesting. I have learned not to care so much about what gets said behind my back, even as it gets related back to me. I have become tougher in myself and more sensitive towards the suffering of others at the same time.

6/ Really I’m just writing this thread because I know that there are plenty of bisexual people who struggle with who they are to the point of despair, so if you are one of those people this is for you. Much love, and I hope you have had a gentle day. (And stay hydrated.) /end