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Rivalry is a type of adversarial philia-type relationship. This means that you love a person like your brother, but will throw sand in the bastards face after he has kicked you in the shins.
Rivalries are an excellent way to foster boy-to-man personal development.
I think the greatest lesson in this is that loving someone is a strategic asset in itself - to love one needs to have deep understanding of a think.
I think the greatest lesson in this is that loving someone is a strategic asset in itself - to love one needs to have deep understanding of a think.
In fact, I'm fairly sure fostering true understanding without love is impossible. And why true understanding is useful to defeating someone (or in general) ought to be self evident.
The second great benefit is learning how to lose and win gracefully. This doesn't mean that rivalries aren't going to have tough moments.
This is precisely why it teaches you these boundaries - you will gloat over them or they will gloat over you, and once they realize that this risks them losing the other side, they will truly understand the cost of being a sore loser
Thirdly, you will exert yourself, and through that, you will learn your strengths and weaknesses. And the rival, through play, will demonstrate you you in excruciating detail, how those weaknesses can be exploited.
This creates a safe environment to learn painful lessons.
I suggest you both cultivate your own rivalries, and cherish the ones you have, and encourage your children to do so as well
I suggest you both cultivate your own rivalries, and cherish the ones you have, and encourage your children to do so as well
