Seeing a lot of "Nobody's saying genital preferences are transphobic" claims from trans activists, which is a familiar template (see also: "Nobody's saying biological sex isn't real"). https://twitter.com/TwisterFilm/status/1269600866753040384

It's true: "Genital preferences are transphobic" (a.k.a. same-sex attraction) is a bad look. But rather than disavow this attack on same-sex attraction and pressure on young lesbians, trans activists would prefer to deny it and keep doing it.

This language and pressure is all over the place. While a lot of TRAs still thump the old talking points (yes, transphobic), many say: OK, OK, you CAN have genital preferences but if you DO nobody needs to know because saying it out loud is transphobic.

This pushes lesbians back into the closet.

Health educators are in on this gaslighting campaign, too,
circulating guides to safe sex for young lesbians that include "if your partner has a penis..." and how to avoid pregnancy while having "lesbian sex."

In practice, it really looks like the whole "no, no, no, genital preferences aren't transphobic" thing means something more like "you can have genital preferences as long as you don't mention or act on those preferences."

(This sounds a lot like "women can have boundaries as long as they never try to enforce them," which is another old argument that trans activists have resurrected to cheers from 21st-century 'progressives.' Just call these women TERFs.)

You can have genital preferences as long as you agree to be redefined from a same-sex attracted person to a morally deficient (even white supremacist!) person who is supposed to be attracted to gender identity but has shameful hang-ups.

You can have genital preferences as long as you don't point out that being same-sex attracted is ALREADY saying no to sex with people who want to identify into your sex life, or that shaming people for same-sex attraction is yet another regressive strain in trans activism.

Trans activists need to stop denying & gaslighting &accept that it's OK to be same-sex attracted, no apologies or explanations necessary, &recognize that people saying they're same-sex attracted sets a boundary that nobody should try to talk, guilt, or redefine their way across.

I'm stunned that so many self-identified progressives think that the 2020 version of "Oh, so you're a lesbian? Well, I'm a lesbian trapped in a man's body!" or "But you haven't tried dick!" is OK. It's not OK.