Idk who needs to hear this (maybe it's just me)- but obsessing over your own mental health is not healthy either. [1]

I always feel this pressure to only make healthy decisions or to only be sad in healthy ways or *find myself stressing out over how little me-time I've had for myself over the week*... [2]

Not because I'm sad or stressed, but because I have some sort of idea that that's not "healthy", probably because of my history with poor mental health, but that by itself can be overwhelming and not conducive to well-being. [3]

While there's a lot of science to back self-care and healthy grieving etc- sometimes we don't have the energy to be "healthy" about our emotions, and that's okay. [4]

The biggest goal here is to be kind to yourself, and to constantly have to measure our feelings and habits against what's considered a "good way" to be is almost just as counterproductive as clearly toxic behavior. [5]

In another perspective, eating healthy and working out frequently is great for your physical health! Obsessing over calories and not being kind to yourself when you can't work out is not. Don't obsess over your mental calories either.
Thank you for coming to my TED talk. [6]