If you think the topic of cooking & other gender roles are baseless, then you're critically unaware of how these are central to the conversation.
You're looking at an example of someone who purposely & deliberately went against norms. It's not "whatever works". It's choosing. https://twitter.com/Tayo_Mr/status/1308573899903381504

It's looking at how systems are set up to benefit you at the expense of someone else. It's recognizing your privilege & refusing to quietly go with the flow. It's not "whatever works" while you benefit from the labor of someone who has to give up their own dreams to support yours

The people who thrive & whose partners don't, cos they've given up everything, do they think of it as hating their partner? Most likely not. They're just living. Refusing to pause & ask themselves what the real cost of their success is. Afterall, their partner didn't complain

That's when you hear: "what if they enjoy it? It's a choice."
Yeah. The choice to pour your whole life into someone, expecting nothing back. Because you're hoping the person would recognize that you have dreams too. That you are a whole human by yourself. That you deserve.