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I feel wise about some conscious decisions I recently made as to people in my life (and no, I don't mean nobody here on Twitter).
These are people close to me, who choose to do things I dislike, in interaction with me.
Those things, they won't stop doing. I can't stop them.
These are people close to me, who choose to do things I dislike, in interaction with me.
Those things, they won't stop doing. I can't stop them.
I can allocate energy in the hope of changing their behavior, but it'd be repetitive since I've already expressed my dislike of that behavior multiple times, so I am clear that my preference is simply not valued highly enough to respect it.
I get to re-evaluate my role, as such.
I get to re-evaluate my role, as such.
With this realization, I now treat that person as a package deal, with various benefits plus it will always include x behavior toward me, even though I have been clear as to what I dislike, and why.
This realization simplifies things, for me.
This realization simplifies things, for me.
If controlling the behavior of other people were a prerequisite to me being in control of my own journey, then I'd never be in control of my own journey in life.
I can try to influence how others treat me. But, I can never control it.
To me, that conclusion is very freeing.
I can try to influence how others treat me. But, I can never control it.
To me, that conclusion is very freeing.
In life, I include whom and what I value to the extent valued.
Less value typically means less inclusion. I change the balance to instead include more of whom and what I value more.
Include as in: operationally, emotionally, time-wise ... whatever.
Less value typically means less inclusion. I change the balance to instead include more of whom and what I value more.
Include as in: operationally, emotionally, time-wise ... whatever.
It works both ways. If someone isn't including me as much as I would like, I can choose to learn why.
Perhaps they don't like how I treat them, and I've shown myself as unwilling to change in that respect.
So, that's an opportunity for me to improve if I choose to, as such.
Perhaps they don't like how I treat them, and I've shown myself as unwilling to change in that respect.
So, that's an opportunity for me to improve if I choose to, as such.
