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So emotional reactions are things that you& #39;ve learned from your environment, and were often adaptive strategies that served a purpose at the time, right? And one of the reasons to relearn them is that they were learned in childhood, and they may not work well as an adult.
A big reason kid emotions don& #39;t work well as an adult is that your environment is totally different - you have much more autonomy than you ever did as a kid.
So far I knew this, but I had a realisation of another big reason kid emotions don& #39;t work well as an adult: kids are dumb
So far I knew this, but I had a realisation of another big reason kid emotions don& #39;t work well as an adult: kids are dumb
Realisation prompted by https://twitter.com/GeniesLoki/status/1308132739632238592
I">https://twitter.com/GeniesLok... can trace exactly where that strategy comes from. I adopted it a lot as a kid. It& #39;s a TERRIBLE strategy. It never worked even in the environments I learned it in.
I">https://twitter.com/GeniesLok... can trace exactly where that strategy comes from. I adopted it a lot as a kid. It& #39;s a TERRIBLE strategy. It never worked even in the environments I learned it in.
Earnestly explaining to the person attacking you that they& #39;re wrong for attacking you is just fucking stupid. If they were amenable to that response they wouldn& #39;t be attacking you in the first place.
But try telling that to a kid who is confused and frightened and just wants the world to be fair and is responding with a strategy that would work if it was.
Me: Self-compassion! Find your inner child and hug it!
Me shortly later: *experiences emotionally profound body shift from realising that kids are dumb and you can laugh at yourself when you& #39;re being dumb and that& #39;s OK*
Me shortly later: *experiences emotionally profound body shift from realising that kids are dumb and you can laugh at yourself when you& #39;re being dumb and that& #39;s OK*
I *think* this is made better by the fact that I went through the self-compassion phase first, but apparently my shadow is particularly delicious today.
Fuck I think I just fixed robotic precision mode.
