Okay, I have decided to play a grognard game, and it's Crusader Kings III. This game is so grognardy that all the characters are members of actual, painstakingly documented historical families and the level of detail is mind-numbing.

hooooooowever

this version has options to play with gender stuff. I've made bisexuality the norm, inverted the laws governing male and female rights, and randomized the religions

So here's my starting dude. I'm ruling Al-Andalus, y'all. This is already great. I have a kid and a grandkid but am not married, and first up, I gotta get married and get a spare to accompany my heir.

So, let's take a look at my options! First up is Ms. Adelais de Ponthieu. She's 17, French, honest, diligent, and arbitrary, and brings a potential alliance with Normandy.

She's an Unreformed Mundhum Yumaist, worshipper of a mother goddess. Their faith is hostile to ours.

omg never mind there are 258 options

I was going to ask y'all to help me choose but there's no way

Okay, I'm marrying this nice Jewish girl. She's 29, from the branch of Judaism centered in Cochin, India, and Berber. She's Vengeful, Patient, Trusting, and a Charismatic Negotiator. Sounds like my kinda gal.

oh no, she won't accept unless the marriage is matrilineal!

(now I'm truly in love)

but I need heirs for my dynasty