“Neurotypicals Stop Making Weird Posts About Mandatory Levels Of Communication” Challenge

I swear to God I’m getting real tired of reading thread upon thread about how “sure it’s okay if you aren’t texting ALL day, but if someone doesn’t even take the time to send ONE text to you go check in daily or weekly, they aren’t your REAL friend”

We aren’t all neurotypical.

Just say “I refuse to have or maintain friendships with neurodivergent folk” and end your tweet there.

It’ll be much faster and way less annoying.

It’s like half of you are entirely oblivious to the incessant ableist micro-aggressions

Like—you’re being ableist when you could just be quiet instead.

Every-time you feel compelled to shame people over social conventions, ask yourself “am I being ableist?”

If you don’t know the answer, google it

I’m tired of making excuses for ableism.

It’s ableist.

It isn’t “just one text”—I’m autistic. When I don’t put immense levels of effort into considering how what I’m saying may be interpreted, I end up hurting peoples feelings because I come across as rude & aloof.

And communicating is exhausting to begin with.

Same with seeing people.

I see posts floating around about how “if they don’t make time for you, they don’t care about you”

Even pre-pandemic, I HARDLY EVER see the people that I love.

I am EXHAUSTED. Stop making everything about *you*.

“I’m tired too and *I* can still do it” is probably one of the most frequent ableist micro-aggressions that I hear/see used against us.

Congrats on being able to do something that others can’t.

Now i saw one like “if they won’t even FACETIME with you when they can’t physically come out to see you—“

Literally just stop. Again, not everyone is neurotypical. I don’t know how to explain to you how exhausting it is to be around other people in any way.

I miss my friends ALL THE TIME.

But on top of it already being difficult to communicate and be around others—most of us have also literally been abused for being neurodivergent, resulting in immense levels of stress surrounding “what if I mess up and say the wrong thing”

Hot take, but I don’t think friendships should need to be transactional.

I love my friends because they’re my friends. I don’t love my friends because they owe me anything or vice versa.

I like... seriously don’t understand the people tweeting this shit.

To any neurodivergent people reading this:

If your “friends” shame you for not “caring” enough, but actually mean: not being expressive enough, emotional enough, outgoing enough, taking long to respond, being quiet, etc:

You probably need new friends.

Having friends isn’t supposed to feel awful.

You shouldn’t have to “act neurotypical OR ELSE”

You deserve better than that.
I promise that it’s possible.

If you’re neurotypical:

Lmao of course I need to address you. There isn’t enough talk that centers you directly, right?

Look—you aren’t obligated to be ANYONES friend. You can just *stop being friends* with people.

There’s no need to bully/shame them before you go. Just go.

Neurotypicals: “but I care about the friendship! I don’t want to just go!”

...do you actually care about them?

Because if you actually “cared about the friendship”, then the friendship wouldn’t be contingent on neurotypical performance.

You’ll make other friends. No need to cling to something that is clearly harming both parties involved.

If you simply cannot control your ableism, move on. Nobody is forcing you to be friends with us.

@ all the sweeties in my mentions resonating with this:

I love you and I see you .