Accessibility ruins relationships! There is no longer a wait, anticipation and patience which prevents butterflies, sparks and excitement.
Social media and smart phones allow us to have 24/7 access to people, unlike before where you’d have to wait to see if your crush comes to

School or logs into MSN/IM or emails you. And because we didn’t have portable access to internet, these things would happen at set times or unpredictable times which would have us very excited and creates a craving/hunger for someone. It is like getting your fix and not knowing

When you’ll get another.
Now we know everyone has access to our phones/internet, we feel more entitled to their time/response. You’re on your phone all day, you couldn’t say hello? We send each other memes/funny tweets/FaceTime/call each other whenever we want and with phone

Contacts being the norm and pretty affordable for most, it’s possible for everyone at anytime to have the capabilities of calling/contacting anyone. The release of dopamine due to social media makes us addicted to each other’s time/space but as with addiction, you become a little

Immune to it. It minimises it’s effect. So it stops feeling exciting, you start wanting and craving more, and the relationship just feels dead because you have too much of each other. Morning, afternoon, evening, night and then when you see each other, it has no excitement.

You know what each is doing at every second of the moment because they snapped/wrote it on IG, you know that they’ve woken up because they tweeted or came online on WhatsApp. You know that they are at a restaurant because they tagged it on Facebook/IG. There’s nothing to talk

About anymore, no mystery. It is a beautiful thing for long distant relationships! Because they lack the physicality and intimacy of normal/local relationships. But for those who have the privilege of being able to see each other, it feels too overly accessible and everyone is

Pretty bored of each other now. Relationships need less social media to work, personally or very busy people so there’s more desire and more mystery.

BBM actually changed the game. They created something you can’t log out of!! That’s actually mad. That’s when WhatsApp/iMessage etc came about and even those you couldn’t log out of which allowed us to literally have people there right where we want them and us to be there too.

MySpace/MSN/Bebo/Hi5/Piczo you could log out! You couldn’t take it to school because smart phones weren’t even a thing, you had to log in and log out and that in itself was soooo exciting, like when will bae log in . We basically live with each other now but socially. The

Accessibility is actually mad. We no longer have anything to look forward to.

We are soooo entitled now and that’s why we get mad when people don’t check up on us or answer our phones/messages consistently but we don’t realise we have NO right. This much accessibility is actually unhealthy. Set boundaries. Reply LESS. Use your phone LESS. Good mornings

And good nights are not necessary.

Our parents had to wait! My mum said when she reached london from Burundi, they had no phone inside the home in Burundi in the 90s. They had to plan a time to go to a particular area and then she’d call. So my grandma had no clue she even reached safely to london or was alive

Until a few months later. Imagine the excitement when you hear someone is alive after all that time after travelling so far. Now she’d just WhatsApp her and say hey mum, I’m in londonnnow. Our parents had friendships which were healthier than what we have now. We’ve become needy.

Even for your own mental health, take some time from your phone and social media. Let yourself relax. Don’t reach for it when you immediately wake up! Also stop checking your partners profile all the time, let them have a life beyond you. I lowkey think you shouldn’t follow your

Partner at all. It keeps more things mysterious. Have a social media account they don’t know about. Learn each other. Because were at a time that if i meet you today, I can find out your date of birth by writing your @ name with happy birthday and seeing what your sign is.

I can see if you like girls WITHOUT asking I can see who your best friends are, what you like doing in your spare time, your favourite food, what country you’re from and do all my research on you instantly without ever speaking to you. It’s not healthy. Stop checking. Go back

To learning about each other in natural ways.