I wrote a blog on consent in romance sex scenes a while ago, and someone commented they'd seen a ton of consent granted, and very few examples of an MC actually saying "no, I'd rather not," and the other MC dealing with it. Been thinking on and off about that for a while.

I don't mean a prenegotiated hard limit, or a minor 'stay off the boobs, they hurt' or whatever, but a proper mid-scene major divergence.

There is a reason you don't see these a lot (beyond the beloved romance sex trope of MC1 knowing by magic telepathy exactly what MC2 wants all the time:

It is a bastard to write.

I am currently doing this and it has derailed the crap out of a perfectly good scene, and now I have to fix it and show how 1 got it so wrong and why 2 had to speak up and how he feels, and it is awkward as hell for both parties.

I suspect this is an important scene for them and an enlightening one for me, but not going to lie, I am sweating cobs over here.

Blog post is here btw https://kjcharleswriter.com/2020/05/20/yes-and-no-consent-in-sex-scenes/

This is indeed a fantastic example. https://twitter.com/BookshireCat/status/1307921200035889154

Specifically, what I'm thinking of is not rejecting unwanted advances, or saying 'I'm not in the mood tonight', but when the scene is underway, they *are* in the mood, and then one MC derails it with 'no, stop, don't like that'. Withdrawing consent.

How both parties handle that derailing (in the case I'm doing, it's two people only just starting a relationship) is proving to be EXTREMELY informative in a 'really sodding difficult' way.