tw/ transphobia, kinkplay, trauma

i will say that when i wrote that fic touching on the transphobia surrounding the term "b*yp*ssy" i didn't fully understand the connotations behind it when it was regarded in kinkplay. i was only going off of the things i've heard about.

i'm just always afraid someone's going to connect the dots between that fic and the fact that i use the term on my hard kink account and call me out for it. so i'm coming out now to say this before it happens.

kinkplay can regard a lot of dark, terrible fantasies, but usually only within consensual scenes and fiction. it's always important to remember that self-coping mechanisms are just that: self-coping mechanisms.

there's a tweet i rt'd on my hard stan that covers it better. but an example would be i have paternal issues and have gone through some situations that have caused trauma. if i find a safe way to cope, why shouldn't i?

if i want to cope with when i had a complete loss of control by fantasising about being at a complete loss of control, to therefore replace the trauma with something better, i will. or by replacing my daddy issues by playing daddy.

i don't know where i'm going with this or why i'm making this thread but i feel like i need to be completely honest with myself and say it.