Just so you know, hyper-independence is often a trauma response.

Yes, the inability to accept or receive help or support from others. The whole “I’ll do it myself, I don’t need anybody” rhetoric. That is very often a trauma response. It indicates that you’re still in survival mode, from a time when you were abandoned after being—

Promised “we’re in this together” or “I’ll never leave you”.

It’s survival mode meaning, you associate other people to being let down. You develop this “if I don’t have to depend or lean on anyone, it won’t hurt when I’m inevitably let down or abandoned” mindset. Enter: hyper-independence.