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is it just my unfortunate luck or does everyone else also have to semi-frequently enforce boundaries with people who then react very disproportionately-- like you asking for respect is a slight to them??? 
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like, as a person who appreciates direct feedback, all I want is for someone to be direct about their wants/needs. and yet anytime I directly tell someone who is making me uncomfortable how they can just... not do that, they instead are like GUESS WE CAN& #39;T BE FRIENDS
I mean yes, that& #39;s correct, we can& #39;t be friends if you cannot respect my feelings or basic requests but like WTF I just told you what I needed?
it& #39;s so hard to have fucking conversations with people who perceive boundaries as an attack or slight!!!
also, I am almost 30 and after growing up in a house with two narcissists then dating several more, manipulative bullshit will not work on me (shoutout to therapy for helping me recognize red flags & and advocate for myself and my feelings)
anyways, all that to say, boundaries are healthy and necessary but god, enforcing them is a real trip. esp as someone with PTSD who often feels guilty for advocating for myself
anyways this has been a summary of my last 24 hours of thoughts, shit like this always makes me want to stop talking to new people and go live in a commune in the woods with only people I know & trust so I& #39;m just gonna give myself a few days to recalibrate
also, if you are reading this thread and you are a person who is frequently upset by people setting & maintaining boundaries, please spend some time interrogating why other people setting limits to protect their physical and emotional wellbeing is a problem for you
boundaries are not about *you* -- they are about caring for *me* so I can remain in community with you + others
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