Dear people of my generation,
How's your weekend coming? I'd like to talk about something that I feel we are losing a touch of and that's PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT.
Screenshots and memes aside, some of us really don't have sense as much as we think we do.

When the chips are down, what have you done or are you doing for yourself that will catapult you to where you want to be in 5 years time? Or we're all just depending on vibes and insha Allah?

I know we all want to "make it" fast, but to be honest, bringing two people that'll bring 4 people won't get you there.

NOTHING about being financially free or successful in general comes easy. NOTHING AT ALL. Not even yahoo yahoo or runs.

Aside the courses we studied in school (which some of us can't even boldly say we have a full grasp of), what else are we knowledgeable in? Or you think everyone you'd meet in your life will have an opening related to Microbiology, Economics or Linguistics to plug you on?

What else do we spend time doing aside arranging knacks in DMs and shaking butts on statuses and stories? Or being hailed as sexy and hot and alcohol and weed chills is all what our "friends" can offer and what we're ok with? On the flipside, what can you offer?

I see girls who complain that every guy is after their bodies. And then I remember that even if I were single, there are extremely beautiful girls I dare not imagine talking about sex to because I won't want to ruin opportunities for myself.

Reason? They've positioned themselves to be bringing more than their bodies to the table and I choose securing my future over cumming.

If opportunity to have sex comes won't I take it? Of course I will. But, I never will make such moves first.

I also see guys who complain about not being "involved" when life-changing opportunities are being discussed and I tell myself that it's because of how they've positioned themselves. You want to be remembered in a room full of opportunities when all you talk about is weed and...

...alcohol and sex? Lol. Or when you've had sex with people you should never have? Or when you've cheated people on deals playing sharp guy?

A lot of success happens when opportunity meets preparedness. Some of us are busy chasing opportunities without being prepared for what we'll do when it finally comes. If you meet Otedola in an elevator and he grants you audience, what will you sell yourself with?

Or do you keep forgetting that you as a person are a brand?

I tell people to dropship for me. They post twice and because sales are not trickling in, they quit. Some even outrightly tell you it's not their thing. So, aside the money, you don't think you're picking lessons on marketing, persuasion and conviction?

The person who'll get hired after that interview is the person who sells him/herself better to the panel. That's of course without neglecting grace. But then, do we even pray? Do we even have a good heart?

Tomorrow, Ozo may be made a Commissioner for Youths and Sports and you'll think it's connections. You'll forget that he had an opportunity to be on TV and sold himself as knowledgeable and passionate about sports aside having a first class degree in a totally unrelated Economics.

What kind of "friends" are you making? Are you just gathering phone numbers or you're making contacts? Are you spending your time on people that'll fuel your growth? If truly people were in a room full of opportunities, will you be remembered?

My suggestion? Focus so much on developing yourself! Take a course. Read a book. Learn a skill. Watch a documentary. Attend a seminar. Acquire soft skills. Position yourself to be so important that when you're involved, people will make shifts that are unimaginable to favour you.

Some of the things and people you're wasting your time on in the name of friends and enjoyment may not matter in 5 years time and except you have plans of dying before then, you just may realise late. Stop spending time with people who only use you to cure konji or boredom.

But then again, I just may be overthinking and "too serious." So, make we dey enjoy abeg. Problem no dey finish.

I wish you a beautiful weekend and a not-so-tough experience as we all journey to success.