Patriarchy really does only allow women to feel celebrated when we get married or are pregnant—emphasizing that our worth lies only within proximity to men. What’s worse is that so many women internalize this and see marriage & pregnancy as accomplishments. https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🥴" title="Woozy face" aria-label="Emoji: Woozy face">

I can’t count on two hands the number of brilliant, funny, amazing women who went fucking crazy when they got engaged/married or got pregnant in a way that made our friendship weird. But it was because it was the only time in their life they felt ~loudly~ celebrated.

For people who are about to suggest that folk celebrate women for anything else other than these things, go look at IG right quick. Notice how many likes/congrats a woman gets for announcing an engagement or pregnancy. Contrast that response to any other actual achievement.

Society reinforces every fucking day where our (suggested) true value lies. And it is not in being an actualized, independent, (emotionally & mentally) healthy, happy woman that finds joy and is rooted in things other than men + romance.