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Three ingredients of resilient marriages - A thread.
1. The Bereshyth (Genesis) account of creation stipulate specific attributes that Adam & Eve had that ensure that their matrimony survived the various trials. It goes without saying that life happens to them too.
1. The Bereshyth (Genesis) account of creation stipulate specific attributes that Adam & Eve had that ensure that their matrimony survived the various trials. It goes without saying that life happens to them too.
2. A careful examination of the Genesis account indeed reveals the challenges that Adam & Eve faced. The loss of status, sudden financial insecurity, the death of child, the pain of being parent to a vagabond just to mention a few woes. Through it all though, they remained one.
3. Not many of the failed marriages today go though half of these serious challenges so, why do we have so many divorces. Yes, many of us have become incontinent and have no staying power but is there more to this trend? You bet there is.
4. A marriage is a union between two people; a male man and a wombed man (woman). This definition packs a lot in it beyond the emphasis of gender and we will unpack that now.
5. Let us consider the Male Man first. Adam was the zenith of masculinity; he embodied the very qualities that every male man today should strive for. Indeed, the qualities he had are the foundation of a resilient marriage.
6. Adam had a healthy sense of IDENTITY. This man Adam knew who he was. Fashioned by the Almighty Creator, all Adam knew was that he belonged to a King whose very breath were in his longs. No negative experiences, this man Adam was a perfect specimen. He was Blessed - a god!
7. Adam has a clear PURPOSE. There was no question of why he was in the Garden. The one who made him clearly communicated his function to Him. What he had was more than a job - His work was equally worship because He lived according to his design.
8. Adam was a man under AUTHORITY. The one who put him in the Garden also gave him instructions and established a healthy boundary for him. Free as Adam was, he knew to live within the will of his Father. The Almighty was Adam& #39;s source & sustainer.
9. IDENTITY, PURPOSE AND AUTHORITY (IPA) were the foundation of his manhood. These were his foundation. Until these three things were in place, the Almighty did not introduce a WOMAN into the mix.
10. You see, Adam was a MAN. Manhood is not defined simply because you are above a certain age grade, that you have a job or simply because you can get an erection. Society has missed the brief on this.
11. Let us now shift our focus to Queen Eve (the Woman). When Eve was created, she was formed from man. We need not wax lyrical on the fact that she was created from delicate material (unlike man that formed from clay).
12. I like to believe that Eve was formed from Adam and co-shared the same divine attributes. If Adam as blessed with a divine IDENTITY, a clear PURPOSE and knew to submit to AUTHORITY it is not farfetched to assume Eve too were all these things.
13. Between them, they had a RIGHTEOUS FOUNDATION such that when the storms of life came (in part due to their own rebellious choices), they remained an indivisible unit. Their marriage was resilient because their FOUNDATION was rooted in the Order established by the Almighty.
14. A man who does not have the attributes discussed in this thread have no business looking for a woman. It is really that simple. A woman who is not prepared to align with this Order have no business being a wife.
15. I am confident that there are other ongoing requirements to build a successful marriage but it is my humble submission that without these three attributes, the chances of success becomes a matter of chance. May we be wise.
Shalom!
Shalom!
