You have to ask permission before unloading on others. I can& #39;t stress that enough. It& #39;s not fair to people when you move straight to telling them what& #39;s happening with you without asking them if they& #39;re in space to receive your energy or giving them room to decline.

How you should slide in people& #39;s DMs when asking for advice:

Hi (name),

I hope you& #39;re doing well. I would love to ask you a question concerning a situation in my life when you have the time. I feel like you might be the best person to help me with this.

Thank you,
(your name)

Most people who come to me for advice about someone& #39;s who& #39;s not respecting their boundaries, taking them for granted, don& #39;t realize that from the moment they enter my DMs, they do the same to me. They lead the way without making sure I agree to participate in the exchange.