Thread by @alliawes, Dear Alli, you been a liar . We have always prided ourselves [...]

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Dear Alli, you been a liar

. We have always prided ourselves on honesty but you just got checked by the guy you are talking to. He said it best: I wait to be honest.

upset by the how true his word were, we are trapped by our passivity. Sweeping

things under the rug. Not being direct in the moment about my feelings. Holding back. Waiting to be dishonest. We keep repeating that thought and it’s a hard pill

to swallow.

We need to work on our passivity. The moment any feelings good, bad, or neutral come up, we gotta speak up for ourselves in the moment. Not speak up later when we get to bothered but holding back bc then the issue can’t be resolved. We are a ticking time bomb

Sweeping

issues, feelings or concerns under the rug to be left forgotten in hopes of being resolved eventually, IS NOT HEALING! Why can’t our feelings and concerns matter enough in the moment? We think everyone else’s feelings matter. Why not ourselves?

My pride almost lashed out at the guy who said we wait to be honest. “Me wait? No way. I’m so honest.” We are honest about trivial things or when we are addressed and asked a direct question. And he made another good point, how was he suppose to know something needed addressing?

People aren’t mind readers

. Nobody will know our pain if we mask it

or hold it in. We must speak our emotional needs, that’s how we build healthy respectful relationships or friendships. Alli you gotta heal that throat chakra

The bad habit of trying to save others feelings IS TRASH

. We have to save our own. We hurt the guy who told us this. He felt bad that we didn’t give him a chance to fix it. It’s not just him, we do this in all our relationships. How many people have we hurt by holding back?

Alli, if a friend of ours out of the blue came out and told us they were in pain about something we did in the past, we would feel guilty, we would want a chance to change it bc we wouldn’t want our friend to continue feeling bad because of us.

So Alli, we have to offer others the same chance. An opportunity to do right by us. If they really care they will listen and they will want to make us comfortable and right the situation between us.

Alli we got to start being direct the moment we feel concerned or start to feel off about something. We can do this