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anorgasmia
anorgasmia
disclaimer: i am not a doctor, i cannot give you medical advice, i am making this thread from personal experience and research.
what is anorgasmia?
anorgasmia is a sexual dysfunction that prevents achieving orgasm despite proper stimulation. which in turn often causes distress in the person it's affecting.
anorgasmia effects more afab people than amab people, but it can happen to both sexes
anorgasmia is a sexual dysfunction that prevents achieving orgasm despite proper stimulation. which in turn often causes distress in the person it's affecting.
anorgasmia effects more afab people than amab people, but it can happen to both sexes
what causes it?
the reasons vary, but the most common ones are drug/alcohol abuse, mood disorders, medications, stress, surgery, or aging/menopause
the reasons vary, but the most common ones are drug/alcohol abuse, mood disorders, medications, stress, surgery, or aging/menopause
is it common?
it depends on what form of anorgasmia you experience. it is divided into 4 categories; lifelong, situational, aquired, and generalized anorgasmia
it depends on what form of anorgasmia you experience. it is divided into 4 categories; lifelong, situational, aquired, and generalized anorgasmia
•lifelong: you have never been able to orgasm
•aquired: you used to be able to orgasm, but now have difficulty reaching one
•situational: you can only orgasm in certain circumstances, i.e. oral or masturbation
•aquired: you used to be able to orgasm, but now have difficulty reaching one
•situational: you can only orgasm in certain circumstances, i.e. oral or masturbation
•generalized: you cant have an orgasm in any situation or with any partner
for me personally, i experience situational! i cannot orgasm without sex toys or oral during sex
for me personally, i experience situational! i cannot orgasm without sex toys or oral during sex
aside from physical effects causing anorgasmia, there are also psychological effects. which can have to do with stress, body image, pressure •to• orgasm, etc
so why are we talking about this?
this is an important discussion for many reasons, i can say personally for the longest time i thought i was broken because i couldn't orgasm. so to have this conversation makes those who experience anorgasmia understand there is nothing wrong
this is an important discussion for many reasons, i can say personally for the longest time i thought i was broken because i couldn't orgasm. so to have this conversation makes those who experience anorgasmia understand there is nothing wrong
them and introduces other conversations, such as the pressure to orgasm everytime you engage in sex or masturbate. having sex or masturbating is about feeling good, there shouldn't be a strict endgoal to it. as long as you and/or your partner/s are having a good time that is what
matters. relieving the pressure to orgasm gives you and/or your partner/s peace of mind to just have fun and feel good. you or your partner not orgasming doesnt mean it wasn't good, it just has other underlying causes. not orgasming is okay and is normal
but if it causes you distress, you can talk to your doctor or gynecologist to see if there are any options to help you orgasm. but you dont have to be "fixed" because you arent broken in the first place.
