Pati Parameshwar
The Lost Tradition

Husband is the most worshippable deity for his wife. He for her is God.The Patistotra says:

Namah brahmaswarupaya satipraanapraya cha/ Namasyaaya cha pujyaaya hridhadhaaraya te namah//Patir brahma patirvishnur patireva maheswarah/patischa nirgunaadharo tasmai sri pataye namah

Which means that for wife, husband is God. He is worshipable and Namasya.He is Brahmaa, Vishnu and Shiva for the wife.

(Ref: Omkarnath Rachanavali, vol 6, page 322-323)

We know that Swami Vivekananda mentioned, the ideals of the Indian women are Sita, Savitri and Damayanti.They all were very very respecful to their husbands.Devi Sati left Her body when Her father uttered ugly words about Her husband Shiva.

The 51 Shaktipeethas are created out of Her body and so each represent the importance of Pati-bhakti in our tradition.

Marriage of the girls is considered equivalent to upanayana of the brahmin.

Now coming to respecting wife : According to Sri Sri Durga-Saptasati, popularly known as Sri Sri Chandi, all women are forms of the Divine Mother("striyah samasraa sakalaa jagatsu" in mantra 6, chapter 11).

So from this viewpoint, all can/should pay respect to any woman.

Sri Ramakrishna worshipped His wife as the Divine Mother.