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1. Start With Fingers First
You’ve already taken the first step of starting your anal explorations with fingers. For anyone out there who hasn’t tried any anal play, stick with fingers to begin with. Once you’re aroused and the two of you are already hooking up, have your partner
You’ve already taken the first step of starting your anal explorations with fingers. For anyone out there who hasn’t tried any anal play, stick with fingers to begin with. Once you’re aroused and the two of you are already hooking up, have your partner
put some lube on their index finger (more on lube in a minute), and press their fingertip against your anus. If that feels good, have them try slowly inserting a finger just up to their first knuckle. Over the course of several sessions, play around with inserting the finger.
2. Try A Toy
Once you’ve had some experience with a finger and feel comfortable, you can upgrade to a sex toy. It’s fairly easy these days to find a beginner’s anal toy that will help bridge the size gap between a finger and a penis or strap-on. These simple and inexpensive butt
Once you’ve had some experience with a finger and feel comfortable, you can upgrade to a sex toy. It’s fairly easy these days to find a beginner’s anal toy that will help bridge the size gap between a finger and a penis or strap-on. These simple and inexpensive butt
plugs come in three different sizes: small, medium, and large. The small is perfect for anal newbies, and you can use medium and large to work your way up in girth. A weighted plug like the Pfun Plug from Njoy can help you get acclimated to an even fuller sensation.
3. Use Lube
It’s absolutely critical to use lube during anal play, especially during anal sex. The rectum is not self-lubricating like the vagina, so attempting penetration without lube is going to feel very painful. You’re also likely to get small to moderate tears in your ass
It’s absolutely critical to use lube during anal play, especially during anal sex. The rectum is not self-lubricating like the vagina, so attempting penetration without lube is going to feel very painful. You’re also likely to get small to moderate tears in your ass
and let’s face it, is there anything less unpleasant-sounding than rectal tears?! Lube is a non-negotiable!
I like silicone-based lubes best for anal sex, since they tend to last longer and feel slipperier against the skin. You can find lubes specifically made for anal sex.
I like silicone-based lubes best for anal sex, since they tend to last longer and feel slipperier against the skin. You can find lubes specifically made for anal sex.
They tend to be even thicker and more durable. Back Door by Pjur is a great silicone-based option. Even though it’s a water-based lube, the Jelle line from Wicked Lubes is an excellent choice.
You can experiment with how much lube to use when your partner is using their fingers on you. Try having them put some lube directly on your asshole, as well as on their finger. When you’re ready to attempt anal sex, try using about a quarter-sized amount.
Their entire shaft should feel super slick. Don’t be afraid of using too much! You can always have your partner wipe some off with a tissue.
4. Go Slooooooow
On the day that you decide to try having anal sex for the first time, take your time easing your way into it. Make sure you’re aroused and excited to take this step It might help to have a vaginal orgasm first, but once you're ready, have your partner warm up ass
On the day that you decide to try having anal sex for the first time, take your time easing your way into it. Make sure you’re aroused and excited to take this step It might help to have a vaginal orgasm first, but once you're ready, have your partner warm up ass
your rectum with their finger first, to help relax your muscles and get the whole area nice and lubed up. When you’re ready to try getting penetrated by your partner’s penis or strap-on, pretend like you’re in slow motion and go as slowly as you can. Take deep breaths and try to
imagine relaxing the muscles in your rectum as much as possible. You can speed up the pace once you feel comfortable, but it’s really important to take it slow for at least five minutes.
5. Be In Control
If you’re concerned about being in pain, you can also ask to be in control of penetration. This is easiest in doggystyle. Ask your partner to stay still on their knees, and allow you to push up against them. As long as you’re the only one moving.
If you’re concerned about being in pain, you can also ask to be in control of penetration. This is easiest in doggystyle. Ask your partner to stay still on their knees, and allow you to push up against them. As long as you’re the only one moving.
6. Don’t Ignore Pain
The rectum is a tight little area. Getting penetrated there can feel uncomfortable, especially when you’re new to anal play. Since the area is so sensitive and susceptible to injury, it’s extremely important that you pay attention to pain. Don’t fight through
The rectum is a tight little area. Getting penetrated there can feel uncomfortable, especially when you’re new to anal play. Since the area is so sensitive and susceptible to injury, it’s extremely important that you pay attention to pain. Don’t fight through
If you think of pain on a 1-10 scale, I’d recommend slowing down if you feel anything above a three. If you’d rate it a five or above, I would think about stopping for a minute to take a few deep breaths and maybe adding some more lube. If the pain persists after a few breaks
stop anal play for the time being and try again next time. If you try having anal sex for the first time and you're not enjoying it, don’t force yourself to fight through the pain — it's not for everyone! Good luck!
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