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If you have any part of your wedding indoors, no matter how small (unless it's just you / your spouse / anyone who lives with you and a laptop with Zoom on), you are a massively selfish bastard and I hope your marital life begins with a massive lawsuit. https://www.nytimes.com/2020/08/04/fashion/weddings/weddings-as-covid-super-spreaders.html
Can you imagine being like this
I am generally in the camp of "cool it with the Covid-shaming" -- I'm not mad that people left New York and other big cities, I don't begrudge people frustration and sadness, I think it's totally fair to say "I hate wearing this mask" (but you still have to).
Plenty of people are taking risks that I wouldn't, but that I don't think are judgment-worthy -- for example, having dinner outside at a restaurant with friends. I won't do it because talking in close proximity is a risk factor, but it's far less risky than dining indoors, etc.
And I'm not taking that risk in part because I live with my partner, so I have a social outlet. For folks who are single and / or living alone, this year has been SO HARD. Extend a little goodwill to people who are doing their best but making slightly different calculations.
But that's a WHOLE different thing than "I wanted to have a big wedding" or "my dream wedding is inside." Sorry, either wait on the wedding (it sucks, I know!) or have a really scaled-down version outdoors with only a few people attending, with masks, no dancing and no dinner.
Do you want a marriage or do you want a wedding? I loved my wedding and would have been heartbroken to delay it. But a wedding is a really fun party. You can have a marriage - or a great relationship! - without one, or with one later than you'd planned.
I will just add that, at least anecdotally, the vast majority of people are being responsible by delaying their weddings or doing small family-only outdoor events. Most people are actually not terrible selfish bastards, even if the Style section suggests otherwise.
